10 Tips For Creating A New Life As A Single Parent

Now that you are a single parent, you have an opportunity to create a great life, but you've got to let go of the old life. Here are some tips that will help:

1. Just like starting a relationship is a process, letting one go is too recognize this and allow yourself the time and space to process. Take a time out so to speak.

2. Let your kid talk, ask her questions. My son, John started talking about being kidnapped. Until he was able to say, "I feel like I've been kidnapped." We had moved away from the home and he got to go on Wednesdays and alternating weekends. Allowing him to talk about his feelings, helped him deal with the new routine in his life.

3. Make a list of the good things as well as the bad things. You are losing both. Celebrate leaving the bad behind. And grieve losing the good things.

4. Find ways to keep the good things from the past. You don't have to give up the things you like that you shared with your ex.

5. Ask your child what she wants to do. You may be surprised and delighted at the fun you can have because you asked. Maybe making a favorite cookie in the kitchen on a rainy day.

6. Journal, write down what you are going through, what you are feeling, what you'd like to do next.

7. You know what you don't want, spend some time thinking about what you do want. Then find ways of bringing those good things into your life. This is also an opportunity to do the things you like that your ex didn't.

8. Forgive your ex. Saying I forgive doesn't mean you are saying it is OK what happened. You are letting go of it.

9. Forgive yourself. Hind sight is 20/20 and you are judging yourself by what you know now, not what you knew then. You wouldn't be so hard on a friend going through the same thing.

10.Seeking God. I couldn't have gotten where I am if I had not had God to turn to. God wants what is best for all of us and so He was a source for me to find comfort and guidance. If your God isn't like that, you can turn to my God.

You still have a lot of living to do. Make the most of it. You deserve it and so does your child!

By: Laura C. Ries

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As a single parent Laura’s goal is to raise her to know how to make decisions, create goals and achieve them. And now she's teaching other parents.

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