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10 Ways To Deal With The Ex's Dog
The woman didn't want her husband taking care of the ex's dog. She thought the dog should be boarded. The daughter didn't want the dog boarded. The dad was OK with taking care of the dog. The woman didn't think she was being unreasonable. However I have thought about it and would tell her the following: · The animal really isn't the ex's dog anymore. It's been over 4 months and the daughter has bonded and thinks of the dog as her own. · The daughter asked the dad for help, the ex didn't. · Getting mad is only hurting you. The ex probably doesn't even know what is going on. · Your husband has chosen to be with you. The ex is the mother of his children, she'll always be in the picture somewhat. You did know about her when you got married. Right? · Take a walk, count to ten or something to calm down. · Apologize to your spouse and step-daughter for your knee jerk reaction. · Get perspective. If the daughter had a friend's dog for 4 months and asked for help, would you have had the same reaction? If yes, ask yourself what is the real issue. If no, let it go. · Journal what you are thankful for and what is right about this situation. o your spouse is responsible and a loving parent o your step-daughter is responsible and compassionate o You have these two wonderful people in your life. · Ask why does the kenneling solution (yours) have to be the one they do? Were you asked to take your time and energy to take care of the dog? If not, why do you care? · Talk with your spouse about expectations and viewpoints. The ex is limited in being involved as she lives in another state. However, there will be times where she will be part of the picture. How are you and your spouse going to reduce the upset this situation causes. Plan ahead and there will be less conflict. Brainstorm ways to deal with ex the next time a similar situation arises. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Laura C. Ries Are YOU feeling pressured? Copyright 2009 |
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