10 Ways To Improve Your Relationship, Now

1. Give, Give, Give

It's like a game, and the point is to keep loving. "But sometimes my boyfriend acts like a jerk, and..." - well sometimes he is really sweet too, right? When you offer love unconditionally, he becomes more open. Keep giving your love so that your partner opens up more and more.

2. Happy, or Right?

Keep this in mind when arguing: would you rather win the argument, or would you rather smile and pull your partner into an embrace?

3. Have Sex for Longer

Most guys never have sex for longer than about 20 minutes, despite the fact that having sex is the best way to become more intimate with your partner. When you're having sex with someone, your body rhythms are matching theirs in astounding ways, creating a connection. The longer the sex, the stronger this connection. Here are three ways, for guys, to have sex for longer periods of time:

Exhale

The reason you orgasm is because there is a build up of energy, and it needs to be released. There are two ways you can release this: by ejaculating, or by exhaling and letting that tension "flow out of your body", so to speak.

Stop fantasizing

Fantasizing increases this build up of tension. There are two sources of this tension - your penis, and your mind. Keep your attention as far away from your head as possible. Push that energy into your legs.

Be Vocal

Again, stop bottling up the energy, and find a way to express it. You can express it through the intercourse itself, or by saying all those things you want to say.

4. Have Fun Traditions

Make a tradition, like going out every weekend to a new restaurant. Never visit the same restaurant twice for the next 5 months, and you will have eaten at 20 new outlets. Make a note of your favorite ones for later. If you run of out restaurants in your city or town, go on an adventure to the next area.

5. Have a "Chill-Out" Time

A few times a week, take time out of your schedule just to sit with your partner. This isn't really a time to talk, rather just some time to sit down and do nothing. Just stare into their eyes like you used to when you started dating. Relax together. This strengthens your intimacy.

6. Be a Man, or a Woman

When you're together, play an attractive part in your relationship. That doesn't mean you have to buy into cultural stereotypes, but just when you're together, play a masculine or feminine role. Sometimes relationships are play. Dress up nicely, groom yourself well, be submissive or be dominant.

7. Force Yourself to Be Happy

The face that you wear the most around your partner - that's what is shaping your relationship. Relationships in turn shape us, our experience as well as our biology. Being more positive around your partner has a way of rounding back and forth, as your relationship gets more exciting and enjoyable.

8. Aim to Improve Both of Your Lives

Warning: men get really touchy when you try to "improve" or "fix" them, because they feel they should be handling their lives on their own. But make sure that you're on a healthy diet, that you surround yourself with friends who are good influences on your mood. Start an exercise routine (not necessarily together) - it's been shown that healthy exercise correlates with a healthy libido. Read good books that nourish your mind. The more your lives are improved, the more your relationship is improved.

9. Understand your Partner

Sometimes men need solitude. Sometimes women just want to talk about a problem and don't really care that much about resolving it (they would rather create a stronger connection by talking to you about it). Sometimes when your man is angry, he'll go upstairs and refold his clothes, or do some work. Sometimes your woman will be happy one day, and come crashing down the next. Understand these things, and you'll be ahead of most relationship problems. Don't disturb him when he's working, he still loves you, he's just busy with something and wants to focus.

10. Be a Surprise

After being together for a while, you know each other enough to expect certain things from your partner. If you've been together for 3 months and have never bought a rose for her, do it today. Wake up an hour earlier than usual and bring your guy breakfast in bed. Do something sexier than usual and dance to your favorite song for him.

By: Graeme Alan

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This post was guest-written by Graeme, who runs a Relationship Blog, Couple on Couples, with his girlfriend. Couple on Couples is the only website where an actual couple discusses relationship topics, gives relationship advice, shares personal stories, and reviews relationship products.