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10 Ways To Take Time And Energy For You To Be A Happy Single Mother
Do it for you but remember that how you are living your life is a model for your children. They are taking in how you treat yourself. They will either think that is how they should be treated or take care of themselves. Or they will think that is how they are to treat women. Do you want that? Create a quiet time before your children gets up or after they go to bed. Or Both! Create a space in your home where you go to become centered. Get a book that has daily readings. Or just sit quietly and enjoy a beverage. I know we all think we are too busy for anything! What? How can you be that busy? There are bits of time in your day that you could take advantage of. Are you making good use of you time? Under utilized time can be found during your commute to work, when you are waiting for your children and when you are waiting for the water to boil. Get out of the office at lunch. Grab a bite to eat, walk around outside, find a spot that has been landscaped, picnic, or even sit at a window and watch it rain, window shop or exercise. This is your time. Take a break from thinking about work, home and kids. Ten minute rest. Set the timer, then sit or lay down with your eyes shut. This mini-break is better than pushing through when you are tired. It is good for you to take the break and come back to your task rested and refreshed. Time with friends. It is important that you take time to cultivate friends. You will be a better parent if you have some adult conversation. Have you made friends at work? Plan to go to lunch with them or something outside work. Also, make some friends outside of work. This is great because you can vent about work and not have to worry about it getting around the office. You get an activity or hobby, too. When the kids are younger it may be something you do at home. I quilted and learned to play the guitar. I would sit in the hall after I tucked them in and practiced the guitar. So they benefitted as well. As they get older and aren’t as dependent on you, you can look for activities that are more social. What words encourage you? What do you like looking at? Take some time to write these words and post them on your fridge or on your bathroom mirror. Find pictures that you enjoy. Do you like the beach or mountains? Find those and post those where you can see them daily as well. And by all means, date. Enjoy yourself but be careful. Keep these tips on dating in mind. Meet someone new at the place you are going. Meet for the first time for a short time like a coffee date. Take your time, if you become serious, you’ll be more than a couple so you want to view all angles and issues. Plan this time or it won’t happen. Look at your calendar and schedule a get away. Get away at lunch, choose the weekend your ex has the kids do something fun. Learn something new. Learning new things that you are interested in, refreshes and renews you. Make a list of all the things you’d like to do. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Laura has been a parent for 22 years, 13 as a single parent. Her goal has been to raise her three children so they'd know how to make decisions, create goals and achieve them. And now she's teaching what she knows to other parents. Single and Loving It, A Single Mother's Guide To Single Parenting copyright 2009 |
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