3 Dating Turnoffs To Avoid

Dating can seem like it is all about the other person and how they perceive you. It is always good to know the qualities you possess, however, both good and bad. Here are some dating pitfalls to avoid:

1. Talking about yourself too much
If you’re especially nervous or it has been a while since you’ve been on the dating scene, you may find yourself talking too much or talking only about yourself. Stop and take a breath. You may find that your date pops in right away with something of their own to say. If not, try asking them a question. Study what they are wearing and ask a leading question about that. You could also ask them what they think about a subject you care about. It is good to share things about yourself when on a date with someone new. If you didn’t share anything, there would be very little to talk about. Try to keep a back and forth between you and your partner in the early dates and those that follow. It is a good prelude to the kind of communication you’ll need as a couple, and good communication is a way to keep your partner interested and coming back for more.

2. Having no opinion
It can seem like a good idea to leave decisions up to your partner when deciding where to go and what to do on a date. That way, they’ll be sure to enjoy themselves, right? It can be boring and distasteful to always be the one to make decisions of this nature, though. It also makes you come off as not very interesting. Instead of deferring to your partner every time, make sure you voice your honest opinion and leave it open to your date’s opinion. You can have a back-and-forth conversation about what to do and are likely to come to a conclusion that both of you can enjoy. If you can’t decide on one thing that both of you like, you can possibly take turns. You can decide what to do today and they can decide next week. Being exposed to new things is one of the best parts of dating, after all.

3. Expecting something
It is human to have expectations. When going into a dating situation, make sure you aren’t bringing inappropriate expectations with you. Agreeing to a date is not the same thing as agreeing to sex, and just because your date says they like you and want to spend time with you doesn’t mean they want an exclusive relationship. Make sure you communicate your desires with your date to make sure there aren’t any misunderstandings. Expecting sex or exclusivity when the other person isn’t ready for them could end the relationship before it has begun.

Good communication, knowledge of yourself, an adventurous spirit, and willingness to try something new are all good traits to have when dating. It is good to know your flaws and possible downfalls as well as your strengths when going into a new situation. Just like in a job interview, your date is going to want to know all sides of you to determine if your pairing is right for them. Get to know yourself, work with your faults, and you’ll go far in the dating world.

By: mishaanatolia

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