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3 Quick Tips To Communicate Better Through A Divorce
1. Become still. Stead of escalating the situation with convincing arguments and frantic gestures, try chilling out a bit and letting the dust settle for a while. Sometimes when you fight an idea or a conviction very hard the other person escalates along with you, digging in their heels becoming even more convinced that they are right. It is certainly necessary to make your wishes known, just do so in a calm rational way. If you do not provide resistance it is very hard to escalate a fight. Perhaps what is really needed is for cooler heads to prevail for a while. While that may not solve the situation it least it may open the door for calm, rational discussion. Communication is important part of any relationship and it happens best when, cool heads prevail. When there is an atmosphere of constant arguing, nagging, and chaos communication is certainly stifled. 2. Make yourself desirable again. Simplest explanation I ever heard about finding love is this: you want love, become lovable. Your partner must have found something intriguing and exhilarating in the beginning of the relationship. What has changed? Have you started taking things for granted? Start paying attention and getting back to basics. To be in a continual state of argumentativeness is not very attractive. One of the biggest turnoffs in a relationship is being taken for granted, or casual indifference. That is almost more hurtful than constant nagging and complaining about trivial items. Remember that your partner is not a thing, but a real human being with needs and emotions. How well have you been filling your partner's needs? Have you been self-centered, looking only after your own needs? It can't possibly hurt to conduct yourself with a bit of dignity and class. Showing respect for your partner may get their attention and opened the communications channel. If not, it may smooth the rocky road ahead. Remember, the only person can control is yourself the present moment, pay attention to yourself. 3. Be agreeable. We are not advocating losing your sense of identity by agreeing to everything that is suggested to you. However, sometimes it is very advisable either remain silent or to practice acceptance of the other person's point of view. Constant arguing and debating can almost be a sign of disrespect. You are sending signals to the other person that you do not respect their individuality or respect their right to have differing opinions from you. It is possible to disagree without starting an argument for sounding like a nag. Groucho Marx, of the Marx Brothers comedy team from the 1930s sang a song in one of his movies; the title was "Whatever It Is, I'm Against It". Sadly, some relationships are like this. The first words or attitudes are disagreement. If you cannot agree with your partner in principle to whatever they are saying, at least agree to steer them out calmly and rationally. The French have a wonderful saying which is ‘viva la difference.’ That means celebrate the differences. Appreciate your partner's unique point of view. We hope you got some ideas from the tips contained in this article. I had a mentor who gave me a valuable life lesson. He stated that ‘feelings are feelings, thoughts are thoughts, but nothing really happens until you take action. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Jane Artisan has started on a campaign to lose weight and get healthy.She did away with take out food and has discovered healthy cooking. Reorganizing her kitchen led to the hunt for the perfect kitchen pot rack to get more space in the kitchen. She ended up purchasing a lighted pot rack. Thanks |
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