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3 Reasons Women End Relationships
1. She failed to communicate. I list this as the 1 problem for those women that choose to end a relationship with a truly loving man. Single women too often profess, "I only want a man who will love me," but should they be lucky enough to find one, their real desires in that statement begin to surface. Although a man may love them as deeply and sincerely as they did in the beginning, the woman will complain or question that the man is not giving them enough attention, buying them enough gifts, making enough money, not complimenting her as often, and the list goes on. The woman does not openly ask for these things of a man as she may appear too materialistic or shallow, and the man doesn't recognize that the woman expects them. A man has other worries more substantial - like paying bills, making the rent, repairing the car, saving for their own home, etc., etc. In essence, he is concentrating on a future together while she desires immediate gratification. The failure of her to communicate to him leads her to communicate her complaints to someone else. If it is a man that she communicates her dissatisfactions to, she has stepped beyond that first line of trust and provides an opening to her confidant to take advantage of a deteriorating situation. Women and men are both lacking in education of how to communicate openly and honestly but in an instance where the woman fails to communicate her discontentment to her man; it is solely her fault for ending the relationship. 2. She expected you to fill her void and fulfill her expectations. She believed that you, in some way, would supply her with what was lacking in her life. She was lacking self-worth and no one will ever be able to provide that to her as it comes from the person themselves and cannot be given through materialistic gifts or praises. She is lacking the inner security, strength, self-confidence and self-worth that any person must have in a long-term relationship. You may have provided her with a feeling that the void in her life was filled and her expectations were met during your courtship phase of the relationship. Like all men, we perform the mating ritual of giving flowers, gifts, and everything else involved as we build a relationship. It was during this time that she saw you as her love in a romance novel. You were a man that would constantly provide these things to her throughout your lives together. She is unable to accept less or the fact that life is not a romance novel. She cannot comprehend the realities of surviving in the real world. Although your gifts and praise may have lessened, you in no way loved her less. A woman without self-worth will never achieve it through another. 3. She had Self-Conflicts. Self-conflicts that culminated as doubt in her relationship. When her needs, values, or desires conflicted, she projected those conflicts onto you. It may have presented itself as minor spats or disagreements. She came to believe that you were holding her back, limiting her ability to be loved. She then created feelings of resentment or blame towards you, feeling she was unhappy, unloved, and undesired. She believed that you were conflicting with her, but she was more in conflict with herself than anything you did. Because of her own self-conflicts, she could not see reality. Her own beliefs created a false reality. As she became unhappy with that reality - the false one in which she was unhappy - she wanted a new reality, one that would meet the expectations of her self-conflict. While they were suppressed early in your relationship, they remained and eventually resurfaced. It is unlikely she will ever understand that it will do no good to blame a partner in a relationship for what she will always feel. She will remain forever, in self-conflict, and is likely to always place the blame on her future mates as each relationship ends. It will never be her fault for ending the relationship, as it is the things you did (or didn't do) that caused her to feel as she does. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Mr.Dees, author of The Aphrodite Apocalypse, continues writing in his retirement. Mr. Dees currently enjoys writing on subjects that he finds of interest, including nostalgia items, western antiques, and the Civil War |
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