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4 Steps To Get Love And Respect From Your Kids
What would a child expect from a parent? Here are my 4 steps: Step 1 Be a Good Role Model Now this could apply to any age of your kid, and is really effective when they're still little kids. What do I mean by be a good role model? Well there is a saying "What you see is what you get." For example, your kid saw you smoking pot, there's a high chance that your kid would do the same thing in the years to come because he/she is going to deemed it "normal" in your household. "You plant a bad seed, you reap a bad seed!" Show your kid that you don't do vices, that you are a responsible parent for him/her. What if I was a bad example? How do I undo what's already been done? Well, just stop doing whatever bad thing your doing and make a commitment to do the right thing from now on, then tell that to your child and show him you are a changed person. Okay now, I don't want to put you on the spot, but you are still reading this article because you know your relationship with your kid is not working, and you need some tips right? Alright on to the next step: Step 2 Discipline Them! What do I mean by that? It's simple; let them know that what they've done is not right and correct their mistakes. Talk to them, explain to them that and you don't want them to do it again otherwise there will be consequences. Of coarse this does not apply if they're not doing a bad thing, apply this step if they're being disrespectful to you, cursing, or anything unpleasant that a kid shouldn't be doing at her particular age. Respect is earned. Show them whose boss! ( disclaimer: I'm not encouraging any violence towards a child, disciplining a child is aimed towards a goal of making him/her a better person. Know your limits. You are not here to raise a battered kid, but a responsible, respectful, and loving kid.) Step 3 Spend Time with Them Lack of communication is the main reason why kids get delinquent. They do not get the attention they need and deserve. They might be bullied in school but then you wouldn't know and your kid wouldn't tell you that because you're busy. They may have problems with their homework but can't get the help. You might say you love them but don't spend the quality time they so desperately need. Some of you might say that you need to work and work for the kids future, well they won't have a wonderful one if all you do is work and work. Am I right? Step 4 Respect their personal space This step applies mostly to kids on their teens and/or their puberty or college. Everybody needs a space, somewhere he/she can reflect or just a private time with himself/herself. I know I asked you to spend time with them on step 3, but the ball is in their court and you're the one who needs to adjust so you need to ask them if they want to talk, if not, just leave them be. Alright that's about it! I hope this article can be of use to you, so good luck with raising kids! Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Need some more helpful tips and strategies in parenting? I invite you to check out The Parenting Blog and feel free to leave comments! click this link to go to the blog-->> lovelyandrespectfulparents.blogspot.com/ |
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