5 Critical Non-verbal Areas That Are Vital For A Healthy, Loving Relationship
The five critical areas fall under the heading of communication problems with your partner. Communication skills aren't just about learning how to talk to people; namely, your partner, they are learning what people are saying when they aren't saying anything! It's learning how to interpret body language, the non-verbal form of communication.
Communication problems between couples can destroy the relationship while others who develop the skills necessary to communicate "the right way" will strengthen not only their relationship but the love they have for each other. Problems arise when one partner tries to make the other partner change - for their own good! YOU CANNOT MAKE OTHERS CHANGE! You can only change yourself!
Now, here's where it gets interesting. When you change yourself, the people around you will change as a result of your new behavior. Hmm, interesting how much new behavior and new communication skills can affect others either good or bad. So, what does this mean? Well, it means you need to learn how to communicate and once you learn, you need to use those skills in crisis situations as well as normal everyday conversation. As stated above, body language is an important part in communicating with your partner.
Briefly, here are the 5 critical non-verbal areas you need to learn about and recognize in your partner and in your own behavior in order to keep your relationship strong and healthy:
1. Pay attention to your body language. You may be saying one thing and sending another message with your body language. Are your arms folded? Do you look ready for a fight? You may not be, but your partner may be reading just that by the way you are standing and they will surely react in a way you don't like.
2. Eye contact is very important. Does the other person look you in the eye or look away when they talk to you? Do you maintain eye contact when you're talking to your partner? And, I don't mean staring someone down - you don't want to act "creepy". Act normal and you won't overdo this technique. Eye contact tells a lot about honesty in the person speaking.
3. Facial expression tells us whether someone is happy, sad, depressed or angry. You can read it in others and understand they can read it in you too. Even a "poker face" is a way of sending you messages. You need to find out what those messages mean.
4. A person saying nothing can be sending loads of information via their facial expression and body language. How you interpret this information can determine whether you should be quiet and back-off, or try and talk through the problem.
5. Even a person's body movement and position is a form of communicating. We can tell when someone is being aggressive, but it's the subtle signs we need to learn and be aware of.
If you misinterpret any or all the communication signs from your partner, you are more likely to jump to wrong conclusions. Wrong conclusions can bring on some nasty fights, nasty fights can end the relationship. All relationships require work to keep things from getting out-of-hand.
The last questions is, "How important is your relationship to you?"
When it comes to having a loving relationship, the more skills you have to handle crisis situations, the better it will be for you and your partner. Great relationships don't happen by accident, most couples work at building a strong foundation. How important is your relationship to you? How much do you love your partner? Learning the proper skills can help you and your partner get through tough times and grow closer as a couple. Learning how to improve a relationship can be the best thing you could do for yourself and your lover.
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