A Life Of "drahma": No Drama Queens Need Apply! A Nine Step Solution
Do you have a life full of drama and upset? Do you experience a constant stream of upsetting issues...lost jobs, frequent housing moves, conflict-ridden relationships, tumultuous romances? Do you have financial problems and massive credit card debt? Are you worried about losing your home, going bankrupt, or ruining your credit? Does it feel like you will never know peace or love?
How can you leave the life of "drahma" behind and create a life of peace and joy?
1. Decide that making this change will be the most important activity in your life.
2. Decide that you will maintain awareness and consciousness as you assess upcoming decisions to deliberately choose non-dramatic choices.
3. Realize that you have made a lot of self negating choices in the past to create the situation. It will take time and a lot of self validating choices to reverse it.
4. Take a good look at how you have been producing these results. Have you created desperate circumstances, so your choices have been desperate ones? Have you acted abruptly and unwisely in anger, frequently producing even worse circumstances for yourself? Have you created fantasies that you used to drive your choices, only to crash and burn into reality (dead end jobs, relationships and housing)? Have you failed to comprehend how your behavior would impact others...producing detrimental results.
5. If you have a substance abuse problem, realize that this is playing a much larger role in your problems than you realize or acknowledge. Take action on healing this issue in your life.
6. Make a list of all the issues to be handled...those with the greatest potential consequences at the top. Handle one at a time with extreme focus. Don’t be overwhelmed by the size of the list or the dire nature of the issues. Sometimes in life, we are confronted by circumstances where the only mode that works is "one foot in front of the other". It is not fun. It is not joyous. Probably it feely awful, but it keeps us going and we will "pop through" sooner or later...to great relief.
7. Develop constancy. Examine decisions judiciously before making them. Consider all aspects. Be realistic. Don’t be slowed down by the process, but give up "snap" judgments (preceded by lack of consideration for ramifications). Once all angles have been considered and the decision made, follow through to conclusion. If you’ve decided to clean up your credit, don’t stop until you’ve handled every single debt. If you’re looking for satisfying work, don’t relent until you have gotten clarity on and produced the work for yourself.
8. Become unstoppable. Don’t give up at the first "bump in the road".
9. Decide to eliminate people, places and things that contribute to an out of control life. you have a pattern of associating with people who mistreat you, discontinue the pattern. If you know something is a mistake and leads to misery, do it differently.
Your life does not have to be one of relentless drama, misery, dissatisfaction, upheaval, tumult and dread. You can change it!
Suzi Elton is a success coach working with highly creative types to create income that matches their talent. She has coached hundreds of clients to approach their goals strategically through tiny steps to bring about quantum leaps. Get free Life Purpose exercises, at mylifepurposecoaching.com.
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