Are You Compatible, Inside-out?

Zodiac signs and birth years in the Chinese calendar - these are two of the most common ways that people try and see how compatible they are. Yet, you will often see a pair of incompatible signs living harmoniously, and two supremely compatible signs battling it out. The reason could be about the stars, or the numbers, or the year they were born in, but instead of bothering with all these details when you are dating someone, wouldn’t it be easier to just get to know the person, first hand, rather than relying on charts?

1. Time your date well. The real personality comes out in any of these three situations: a). when a person is tired; b). when a person is drunk; c). when a person is under stress. It sets all their “masks” down, and you get to take a peek at who they really are.

2. Observe them well. There are little tell-tale signs to look for when a person is being insincere, and most of the time, your instincts will kick in and make you aware of it without even trying.

3. Listen attentively. Not just to what they are saying, but to the tone of their voice. Most people are distracted by the actions of their dates or their looks and fail to hear what is really being said beyond the words that are coming out.

After knowing as much as you can about your date (you really won’t know everything), it’s time to review how much you know about yourself. Obviously you would never be able to tell if you are compatible if you have no idea what to match it with. Such as what are you looking for in a relationship, and how much are you willing to commit to it?

You should also draw a “baseline” and note how flexible you are willing to get with regard to it. If you are expecting honesty from your date, be ready to offer it as well. This is why dating is such an important time in building your relationship, because this is the time where most “rules” and expectations are set.

By: Michael J. Wilson

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Michael Wilson writes for a number of online publications about relationships, match making, virtual dating, and also provides advice on relationship issues with couples.