Are You One Of Those Guys Who's Always Becoming Some Girls New Bff?
The Problem
O.k. Guys so you can't figure out how to get a girl to like you in the way you had intended. Unfortunately your feminine side came screaming out and instead of being romantically involved, you are there with her watching lifetime doing your nails and letting her test her new "Hair-be-gone" on your legs. Hey don't shoot the messanger you got yourself into this mess not me. You're the one that needs help with women. So lets do a little house cleaning shall we? We'll get you back on track no worries.
When a girl says she wants a nice, sensitive guy, don't run out and get a "build-a-Bear" and sniffle during the chick flick you took her to. Technically speaking that may be what they want, it's human nature and it sounds right, but when reality bares it's head female instinct says she likes a guy who will take control and act like a man. Let's look at what happens when....
What happens when... you take a girl to an expensive dinner, buy her something on instinct and spoiling her at no expense? She thanks you for the lovely time and goes out with another guy. Dang!
What happens when... you just can't wait to call that beauty right after a great date cause you had such a great time (so you thought) and she's coming off as awkward and rushing through the call just to get you off the phone. Am I right?
The Solution
Now Let's change it up a bit for the sake of variety...
What Happens when... you don't call a girl and you're habitually busy, and really could care less if you see her again or not? She's calling you every few hours right?
What Happens when... you go out for a quick brew and act like she's your happy hour pal? She starts to feel an attraction because you are'nt being the "jump" "How High"? kinda guy. Do you get a feel for where I'm coming from?
Now Don't go misunderstanding confidance to being a total jerk. To get a girl to like you and show some interest Don't come off as shy or awkward it will turn her off. You will gain more ground if you lead the way without talking about it. Keep away from dull and lifeless and step up to fun and spontaneous.
Make her laugh, don't give her too much info about yourself keep some mystery about you and let her wonder. Be interesting and please leave your game night talk at home. Show some direction with your goals and show you have a solid plan for your life, other than a 52" Plasma and the "Boys" coming over on monday night to knock some down.
This is just some starting points for you to head in the right direction so let's do a brief review and wrap up. Be a man, Keep Busy not too readily available, be obscure, have a plan, be calm, fun and confident (not arrogant) start off simple but purposeful and never, I repeat, never let her put some warm goop on your legs and tell you it isn't going to hurt. Until the next time cowboy, peace and be well.
