Are Your Relationships Wearing You Down?

Do you have a broken relationship? Deepak Chopra can help. I have been taught a whole lot from Chopra and have obtained good results implementing the things I have learned to relationships in my life. Certainly, you can, too. Listed below are three principles I've picked up from Deepak Chopra that have really helped me establish healthier relationships in my life:

1. The outer world is a reflection of your inner world.

Every relationship is much like a mirror. Every thing within you is mirrored back thru your relationships. A great way to understand more about your self is to look at the way you deal with others. Have you been controlling, overly critical, and envious of others? Or perhaps you are accepting, flexible, and cheerful for others?

The Lesson: As an alternative to concentrating on what is wrong with other people, have a look at yourself. Should you look closely, you might find that you possess a lot of the same faults you observe in other people. When you have acknowledged your faults, recognize them while not judging your self. Take new behavior that will identify you as the man or woman you want to be and help develop the relationship you want.

2. It can be more useful to be joyful than to be "right".

Deepak does not advocate relinquishing your values or giving into something you believe is wrong, however often times we have the option to be either happy or "right". If the dilemma is not important to you, stop trying to guard your point of view and be content instead.

Lesson: This can be a really difficult choice sometimes, but normally it is a no brainer. Do you really have to win that argument? Do you really want to agree with everyone? Accept the actuality that you simply are two different people with special perspectives. Agreeing with everyone is impossible. Honor your differences in morals and values. Commit to set your relationship above the these discrepancies. If the issue is too significant for you to stop trying, then simply you need to come up with some sort of bargain to get what you want.

3. If you need something, give it.

The simplest way to get what you're looking for is to give it. Rather than waiting around for people to give you what you need, give it to them and watch as it returns to you.

Lesson to Learn: You receive what you give - not many words are more appropriate in relation to relationships. If you want an apology, give an apology. The answer is to give with out attachment. This means give the apology with out expecting one in return. I found that when I give a genuine apology, I typically receive one in return. This will work the same way with forgiveness. Rather than stating to them that they are forgiven, forgive them in your heart and soul. When they observe that you have progressed, they are going to be more inclined to do the same thing.

Fixing a relationship is difficult. Things have been said or done you will never forget. Should you value the other person, then conserving the relationship is your first priority. If you have been trying to save the relationship without being successful, try out some of the tips offered here. They may seem counter intuitive or illogical, but trust me, they are worth a go. These methods will force you to make some tough decisions. As usual, meditate or pray when you are unsure of what you should do.

By: Paul DiGi

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