Conflict Management vs Conflict Resolution: NO is about boundaries and identification.
Exactly what issues need to be addressed? Do you have one specific issue in mind? By and large we need to become better focused about the things we are trying to achieve. This concerns everything without exception, from everyday practical matters to avoiding sore, difficult or awkward feelings. The problem seems to be to do with how to achieve that clarity and then to uncover the answers to questions. The 7 Words System offers a easy innate sense of what is right that allows us to achieve a much better awareness of what exactly we are trying to find. It begins with No. To begin with, we will need define accurately what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want
Conflict Management vs Conflict Resolution: HELLO is about openness and exchange.
What can you learn from others? Are you ready to make changes in your situation and way of doing things? The second phase links with the word Hello. We will certainly need to open up to new possibilities if we expect to increase our breadth of solutions to any predicaments we get into. Is that reasonably logical? To get something different we will need to broaden our horizons and look where we have not formerly looked already. New thoughts, new associates, new places and new things are clearly characteristic of giving attention to something we have not until that time gone through. It requires that we exchange old for new, that can tender something in fair return for what are trying to get.
Conflict Management vs Conflict Resolution: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.
Always there is good to be found in the qualities of a person. How well are you expressing your appreciation? Between all of our choices, some are more appealing than others and of course we want them to have a higher significance, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Repeatedly, we forget the significance of what we have, then blindly move into ingratitude and are likely to presume things will always be the way they have been before. It's more than simply a courtesy to let somebody see our appreciation for things we value; it has a significant effect in helping us to succeed in attaining our aims. Psychologically we are drawn to what we convey gratefulness for, and yet it's equally correct to say that we are able to attract them to us too. We develop magnetism when we say Thanks and therefore, whenever we do this, we effortlessly bring things to us.
Conflict Management vs Conflict Resolution: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.
Whichever way you go, from now on life has changed and will be forever different. The word Goodbye is the fourth of the 7 primary words and relates to a process that has 4 clearly defined phases. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying goodbye to a particular stage of development, and therefore could be understood basically as utter refusal of a possible course of action that previously we had been stepping towards and in future will not pursue. It is a turning point in our range of would-be outcomes. Goodbye is different from No because it implies that there has been a degree of involvement already, which now needs to end compared to No's refusal to become involved in the first place. True decisions cut the past away unequivocally and that penetration sets up an opportunity that otherwise does not materialize.
Conflict Management vs Conflict Resolution: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.
How do you cooperate to find harmony? You do have a vision of a successful resolution? The future opens out according to the things considered normal of the past unless we take control of it and shape it to our desire. To do this calls for to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, unambiguous and optimistic—and converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather unreal and the second is much more motivated and willful. For a dream to become real there must be support. . Nothing can be completed without attaining the help of other people - this takes talent, in all probability persuasion, even encouragement. It is not always crucial to offer something such as money or money's worth.
Conflict Management vs Conflict Resolution: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.
Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that arise? Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good damage done whenever we've been inattentive or neglectful to the circumstances of another. The best plan is to make sure we forestall the need to say it by being thoughtful in advance. Why? Well it's because anyone we upset could easily be inclined to act against us and lower our likelihood of success, so it is obviously more judicious to take into account others as well as ourselves. This question is all to do with being responsible, having a degree of concern for anyone we've upset and making amends when we've blundered. Then and only then will it ever be possible to forestall or repair resentment and leave go of the permanent nastiness that otherwise would increase and fester.
Conflict Management vs Conflict Resolution: YES is about accepting and surrender.
Not every path is workable, that's the whole point of our being creative individuals...are you truly trying to find a way that works for all concerned? The last stage of our 7 Words approach is to do with acceptance; there are circumstances when we simply have to bow to what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be good wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in fact we can't. We always need to tolerate what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for. The paramount habit is to trust that everything in the long run turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when comprehended in the perspective of the longer term. Without doubt it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! Still pause a while and you will see that the unanticipated incidents, the surprises and failures are actually the best bits masked as adversity.
