Critical Relationship Advice For Men - Are Communication Disagreements Destroying Your Relationship?
There you are hanging out with your "buds" having a few drinks (or more than a few) asking yourself and anybody that will listen if your breakup is really final. You keep trying to figure out what went wrong. Was it you or your partner? Your family, friends and co-workers will sympathize just so much before they begin to distance themselves from you.
You may go off in the other direction trying to get over your ex lover by rebounding and rebounding and rebounding - you get the point, the only person you're hurting is yourself! The way you're acting is characteristic of breakups nowadays. Rather than trying to dwell on the past events, rather than trying to get "revenge", you need to be asking the right questions.
What are the right questions? They're the tough questions that give you an idea of what went wrong in your relationship. Like, for instance, what part you played in the breakup? The hardest part of all is looking at the areas in your life you need to improve and the skills you need to learn to keep from making the same mistakes. Everyone wants to change the other person "fix'em" but that's never going to happen. The only person you can change is yourself! Here's the great thing about changing yourself, many times the other person will change as the result of your new behavior.
Most people think "talking" when it comes to communication. They don't realize there are other ways to communicate. Check out these other forms of communication between you and your partner:
1. Check out their body language while they're talking. Are you getting mixed messages?
2. Eye contact is important, does the other person look you in the eye or look away when they talk to you? Sometimes this can be a sign of dishonesty.
3. Facial expression can tell you a lot about the person and what they are feeling.
4. Communication also involves their facial expression and body language when they aren't talking.
5. Body movement and position are an important part of communicating with others. Are they being aggressive?
6. If you misinterpret any or all the communication signs from your partner, you are more likely to jump to wrong conclusions.
So, is your breakup final? Maybe not. It may be the result of not communicating properly between you and your partner. If that's the case, you need to stop drinking, using drugs and going through women like ice cold beer on a hot day. If you really want to have a happy, relatively peaceful life then you should develop the skills you need to make it happen. Once you learn the skills you may be able to get back your ex or move on to a new, stable relationship.
(If you are involved in an abusive relationship with your partner get help immediately. Get away, get counseling, stay away and stay safe. Statistics show more men are being abused in relationships and generally are too ashamed to admit it until something bad happens.)
When it comes to having a loving relationship, the more skills you have to handle crisis situations, the better it will be for you and your partner. Great relationships don't happen by accident, most couples work at building a strong foundation. How important is your relationship to you? How much do you love your partner? Learning the proper skills can help you and your partner get through tough times and grow closer as a couple. Learning how to improve a relationship can be the best thing you could do for yourself and your lover.
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