Dealing With An Insecure Girlfriend

In any relationship, insecurity is bound to play a part and occasionally men find themselves with an insecure partner who needs nurturing and reassuring. However, the key part of helping an insecure girlfriend lies in the answer to this question: why is she insecure?

You need to ask this question because there can be various reasons for insecurity: jealousy is a very common factor and low self esteem another. The key is to find out why your girlfriend is feeling insecure, if either of these two factors are the cause and why she feels that way at all.

Jealousy
It could be said that it is a natural response for men to catch a brief look at another women. We cannot go around with eyes closed all the time and we notice what goes on, but it is essential that your insecure girlfriend understands no matter how much you look around, it is her that you have always desired.

Insecurity can go both ways, if she was looking or flirting with the opposite sex it would also make you feel uncomfortable in your relationship. An additional problem with insecurity is that women may start to think you are having an affair just because of a few late nights at the office or a few business trips have taken you away.

Of course, you are not, but how do you prove to someone that you are not doing something they think you are? The truth is you have to start proving that before the occasion arises: your girlfriend trusts you to be faithful to her and you have to make sure she knows you ‘are’ being faithful to her. Be honest, be romantic and always tell her how you feel about her, do spontaneous things to surprise her and make her feel good about herself..

Self Esteem
Opening up with your partner and being honest about how you feel - telling her you love her, you care about her, how great she looks, telling her about your day and listening to hers is a great way to build security and self esteem. Communication is the key when you are together, don’t let your stress from work damage your relationship, she wants to know about your day and she wants you to know about hers. Sharing your day can be a great way to bond and build trust and relationships.

Many great relationships fall to insecurity in one partner or the other, and often as a woman grows older it is she who loses her confidence; she sees herself ageing, and believes that you will no longer find her attractive.

You need to assure her that she is the one for you, that it is her you love, want to be with, and want to remain with. You need to give her all the love and care you can, and be absolutely straight with her on all points. By helping to make your partner feel special you will be reducing any insecurities that may exist and will be giving your relationship the best chance of success.

By: John McCall

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