For those of us normal people who haven't been through 3 or 4 divorces, it's nice to learn as much as possible about the divorce procedure so you know exactly what you are getting into. It can obviously be a trying time, mentally, emotionally, and financially. Nevertheless, with a few helpful hints, you can get through the rough times and survive your divorce.
Letting go of your marriage is not easy. For years you thought of yourself as one partner in a two partner relationship. You planned on growing old together and now you have gone your separate ways.
"It doesn't really matter whether you are the Plaintiff or Defendant in a Divorce case". You may have heard this many times.
While it bears some legal truth, the psychological edge is often in favor of the Plaintiff, the spouse who files for divorce first!
So finding a competent divorce lawyer early becomes critical to the outcome of your divorce.
While the smart thing to do in divorce is to communicate with your spouse and settle matters early, the reality is that the divorce is a very adversarial process where you become the enemy to your spouse, his or her family and friends.
In reality, close to 50% of marriages end up in divorce. Also, less than 3% of divorce cases go to trial. The Family court judges are often overwhelmed by the enormous number of divorce cases that they do whatever it takes to get you and your spouse to resolve your issues yourselves. You file a divorce petition, or you file a motion, and often the judge send you and your spouse to mediation.
Even if you schedule a divorce trial and you show up bright and early in the morning ready for the final battle, some judges may attempt to "try" your divorce case "without a trial". They may give a piece of paper to the 2 attorneys indicating what they believe they would judge before hearing any evidence.
Separation, divorce and child custody proceedings are some of the most stressful and agonizing times in a person's life.
A divorce is a tragic incident and extremely distressing for the entire family. The couple and the children undergo major emotional trauma, periods of frustration, anger and loneliness as a result of the split in the family. In such difficult times, it is important for the entire family to find a support that can help them overcome the loss without too much of a suffering.
