Milk and cookies, dogs and kids, horse and carriage. Some things just naturally go together. Most children and animals get along famously, and there is nothing better than the love between a child and a pet. Especially when the child is old enough to be part of the play, exercise, care and feeding of the family dog. Both the child and the dog reap huge benefits from interacting with each other from a young age.
While very few dogs are better off not in the company of children, some dogs have temperaments or low tolerance levels that make interacting with children difficult for them. This can occur even when the dog has been raised with the child and the child is old enough to understand. In these cases, usually all that's needed is slow socialization and positive reinforcement for both child and dog. Just don't try to force it, it will happen gradually, but it will happen!
Some dogs, especially the tiny, toy and miniatures are better off when dealing with older children. An older child understands better that the little ones need to be held and handled in certain ways. Is also easier for an older child to understand that teasing and rough play is not always the best way. They also understand the insecurity the small dog may be feeling. All dogs, no matter what size or temperament, react with growling, snarling, snapping, barking and even biting when they feel threatened or alarmed. This includes sudden movements and loud noises, something very small children do naturally.
On the other side of the coin, many large breeds, such as boxers and even labs, are capable of intimidating a small child, simply by their size. The friendliest dog in the world, no matter their size, can be overwhelming to a small child, especially one they don't know or come into contact with on a regular basis. A child will feel threatened by the dog's high energy level and natural exuberance. Don't forget, the dog is a lot larger and taller than the little boy or girl!
It is the parent's responsibility to teach children about animals. How to approach them, how to relate and respond to the dog's behavior, whether overpowering or docile. Simple tell tale signs in a dog for example, would be the position of the tail, stance, ears - all the things as an adult we already know. ANY interaction between a child and an unfamiliar dog should be monitored closely, until the relationship has been established. This includes continued supervision of the interactions on a regular basis. Parents should always be ready to step in, whether on the dog or child's behalf to ensure the relationship stays on the right track.
Encourage children, especially older, more responsible ones, to take an active role in the care, feeding, exercise and training of their pet. Even a very young child can be taught to fill the food and water bowls. Parents again need to be vigilant, as the dog can't say "hey guys, I haven't been fed yet" or "my water bowl is empty and I am thirsty". A simple schedule usually helps - feeding and watering before going to school and walks after school are a good example.
