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Encouraging Sexual Experimentation For The Disabled
First of all, an article like this is addressed to, or at least is about, such a broad range of possible disabilities, that it is not intended to deal with details, but rather concepts. It could be said that we are simply encouraging people who are unable, for whatever reason physical or psychological, to participate to the fullest in relaxed and creative sexual experimentation. That surely includes a wealth of people who have no obvious physical disability. Erogenous Areas There may be some extreme exceptions, but let's make the assumption that we all have an interest in sexual stimulation, and that we all have some areas which either are erogenous zones, or which can be developed to be just that. If your ability to be stimulated by gentle and loving contact is diminished, you have to make adjustments. You will find that touches which at one time were nothing more than pleasant caresses, can now be developed into highly exciting receptors, provoking satisfying sexual reactions. These can include any body area, but especially ear/neck area, mouth, nipples, or lower back. Helpers Don't be reluctant to buy and use helpers like sex toys such as vibrators, dildos, or masturbation toys for men. Maybe your best sensitivity comes from anal stimulation. Anal stimulation has been very surprisingly effective for many who tried it for the first time. If you or your partner are able to feel sexual stimulation in the genitals, but unable to position yourselves for 'normal' sex, you may find that the support harnesses especially made for sexual positioning can become the real answer in the partner relationship. And if you are among the folks who have lost sensation in the genital area and are developing new sensitivities, do not be hesitant to ask your partner to patiently and lovingly help you search for them. A Continuing Process In all cases, always begin with the most gentle stimulation, searching for new touches and new areas in a relaxed and open experimentation. This is not a matter of one episode. Use your imagination, and don't let yourself or your partner feel that it is too slow or not worth the effort. In addition to toy helpers, you will need to think of all sorts of possible cushions, props and pillows, lights or no lights, music or no music, erotic DVDs. Once again, you must experiment lovingly, gently, and slowly, to assure that you do not hurt or 'turn off' yourself or your partner, and that you get the best possible result. Learn from Others Lastly, for more direct value than this general article, don't hesitate to talk to your doctor about your situation. Perhaps a sex therapist as well. And last, but far from least, check the Internet for organizations specializing in your particular disability. Many folk do not think of it, but these organizations usually have advice regarding many specific aspects of the lives of their members, including practical information for sexual activity. You are far from alone in your condition. Search for the experiences and successes of others as a start for your own personal experimentation. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com ToyboxCharley is a regular contributor for authoring of blog posts, articles, tweets and other communications on sex, sexuality, and sex toys from the sex toy site 'MyRacyToybox.com' and the associated blog, 'Blog.MyRacyToybox.com'. |
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