Ex With Someone Else? Find Out Why This Improves Your Chances Of Getting Back Together!
You've broken up with your partner and you're feeling down - and then you see your ex with someone else. So does a rebound relationship mean what you two had together doesn't matter to them?
No. In fact, it could be good news for you! A rebound relationship is when your ex is dating someone else to get over you. Generally, they are a distraction from having to deal with the painful emotions of your breakup and to help them move on.
More than likely, your ex is dating someone else in order to deal with the pain of losing you. So that also means the door is still open for the two of you to get back together.
This is not the time to keep score, or make lists of who did what to whom and who is at fault. The point is, there are still feelings involved on both sides. And those feelings can be fanned back into a flame.
Because when you care about someone deeply, it takes more than a breakup or even a new relationship to make those feelings go away. Love may change sometimes, but it never truly dies.
When your ex is dating someone else, they are generally dating someone who isn't at all like you. Whatever they felt was 'wrong' with your relationship, they'll go for the opposite extreme in the new relationship. For instance, if you're into fine art, their new partner will be into punk posters. Or if you're a big sports fan, their partner will be all about theatre.
Before you start worrying and comparing yourself to the new partner, think about this...you're not the only one comparing. Your ex went out of their way to choose someone unlike you, and because of that they can't help but compare the two of you. And here's something else...you get the chance to really understand what your ex is looking for.
If your ex is with someone completely different from you, it means that the rebound has something that your ex felt was missing in your relationship. You can use this time to examine and maybe even improve yourself.
Don't interfere...just let the rebound relationship run its course. Eventually, as the flaws in this person emerge, the interest will wane and you'll start to look pretty good.
That's why you don't want to chase. Let your ex realize that they miss the good things in your relationship. When they're ready to make a move, be open. Welcome them back without blame or finger-pointing. This is the new and improved you, after all.
While your ex is with someone else, keep these 'golden rules' in mind:
1. Do not attempt to convince them that you're the only one for them. Let them come to this on their own.
2. If you did something wrong, apologize. Once. And then drop it. Don't try to win your ex back by begging for forgiveness.
3. Don't promise to change. You are who you are. Improving yourself is one thing, but trying to be someone else just to fix a breakup will make things worse.
4. Don't play the blame game. It doesn't matter who was at fault. Let whatever happened settle, and be ready to forgive (and be forgiven) without needing to be right.
When you see your ex with someone else after you split up, don't worry. They're on the rebound, and it won't last for long. You can still make up with them and fix your relationship. Because really...they still love you. For more breakup tips and advice, visit SecondChanceAtLove.info
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