How painful it is to see a close family member become weak and sick? My ex. Mother in law is getting sicker for every day that goes by. She has been a heavy smoker for thirty years odd. Her father died of suffocating from a severe lung disease. It seems that she has passed on to her.She has got 40% capacity in one lung left! No wonder she becomes blue faced and pale. I met her when I was twenty.
It was my ex. husband Tommy that introduced me to her. We were at the time playing softball and baseball. Actually coaching and playing at the same time.
Inga Britt was always there watching the games. When my daughters were born she was baby sitting them. I ended up at the Swedish National Team so I was travelling a lot. So of course she has been very important in our lives. My own mother died in August 1980.I was twenty. She did not meet my husband or the daughters.My father was an alcoholic and passed away 2005 after several strokes. He was more a non present person after my mother died.
Unfortunately he took the advantage of my mom’s death and used it as an excuse for drinking. The thinking process starts when you see a family member sick. Like- how do we precede her to a nursing home? When do we do it? How will she take it and most of all- how will she make it? There are so many thoughts and questions.
She will become 77 in August and is still driving her own car. When do you say to her – quit driving? It is hard because her mind is clear but the body is so sick, weak and fragile. Even her skin that used to be so soft, tanned and moistly is getting dry, flaky and sensitive now.
Everyday a helper comes to Inga Britt. They cleans the house, makes the bed and doing some shopping. They are supposed to prepare food for her as well. But today they had missed her! How is that possible? You would think that the year of 2007 everything would work out perfectly? Oh no! Is it therefore you do not want to become old?
Most of all I am thinking of to make a big lump of money to afford the best help you could get? To be staying at home with the closest ones. To finally end up floating away to meet the final light? Most of all, I trust in Universe. When it is time I will not struggle just follow the light and meet my dearest, closest that will join me.
MarieLouise is working as a Life Coach, an author and a personal trainer. She is also very skilled as a networker with several years experience from different MLM companies.
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