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Flirting In Modern Culture: A Man's Guide To When And Where
It's a matter of not realizing how important a focus on when and where flirting should take place. Some guys love to make a pass anywhere, such as at a wake or a baptism. It may sound silly, but it's easy to forget ourselves and get caught in the moment. The OPPOSITE is also true, and many men forget this. Many men have become so uptight that they forget to flirt at times when it IS appropriate. Some women are this way too! There are several factors that lead to this, but let's look at the WHEN and WHERE first. The first is a party, particularly a party of cultural significance (think Christmas or New Years). Some festivals are the same. I'm sure you've seen this before - inhibition flies out the door for some people at these times, and the party gets wild. Some carnivals are notorious for this - Mardi Gras comes to mind, as does Carnivale. You are EXPECTED to abandon much of your inhibition. So wow, acting with abandon is actually okay? Well, somewhat. There is an etiquette to all of this, but it might just be reversing of everything you know. The next acceptable place to flirt would be just about any place that serves alcohol. There are a few more rules for flirting at drinking establishments, however. The first is knowing the area around you. If you are at the bar, standing, then it is considered more "public". The further away you get from the bar, the more "private" it becomes, particularly if you are seated. A dance floor is the obvious exception. One thing to note is that a restaurant, despite serving alcohol, will have a different set of norms attached to it. In general, flirting between couples is acceptable, but strangers should abstain. A school is always a place that has a bunch of flirting going on. It's known and acceptable - how many movies have been made about amorous coeds? In colleges, women are just starting the mate selection process, and the process is sped up by the fact that everyone is sharing a particular lifestyle. You aren't in school anymore? Try a weekend class every once in awhile in something that interests you. You might find some great opportunities there. Another more acceptable place is the workplace, but I urge you err on the side of caution here. The rules of each place is different. There might be certain times in which it is okay (after work), and places (by the coffee machine, etc..). And most importantly, with WHO. Overall, it's important to find out the norms of this for your own workplace. The best thing to do is watch other people at your work; experienced men should have become more acquainted with the norms, so find a few of those and observe them to get a quick idea. The next place that comes to mind is a group sport. This one creates a conundrum - while you might be enthusiastic about the sport, if you both take it seriously, it might not be the place to flirt. It interrupts the focus and can come across as inappropriate at THAT time. Try during off hours at a better place. If you are very casual about it, it's a great time to flirt, with the added bonus of your adrenaline going - it will heighten things. Those are some very basic places, but think of them in the broader sense, and you will understand. Take the time to observe this etiquette - it can be to your GREATEST advantage to do so. Watch people around you so you'll know WHEN and WHERE, and embrace the fact that sometimes, you are EXPECTED to flirt! Doing so will allow for more flirting, on a fearless level, and far more dating success! Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Joseph Matthews has been teaching men how to meet women since 2004, and is widely known as an authority in the field of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to learn more about how to meet women, check out his complimentary newsletter. |
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