Getting Your Red On – That's Blushing

Kara has just managed to make one of her more spectacular entrances. She tripped into the girl in front of her, and sent her nearly sprawling. Already embarrassed, Kara recognizes the girl as she turns in anger. Of course it had to be one of the most popular girls. One of the many she just tries to avoid altogether. Adrenalin screams into Kara’s veins. With the adrenalin comes a coppery taste in her mouth, and heat spreading on her face and neck as the body sends a rush of blood to aid her fight or flight response.
Kara realizes in the freakish split second, that on top of everything else, she’s blushing like a huge tomato face.

This is an example of a psychological cause of blushing. The surge of adrenalin rushing blood to your vital organs during a fight or flight response is actually there as a means of protecting you. In the primal world a bright red face indicates dominance, not weakness. But humans sometimes interpret it that way based on the emotions they are feeling at the time. That blush is saying, oh-oh, I screwed up socially, I acted outside the perceived norm.

What happens next is up to you. Do you simply let it roll off, and apologize sincerely, knowing everyone makes mistakes, and that clumsiness really isn’t a crime against humanity, punishable by death? Or, do you go into the whole drama of taking on feelings of guilt or shame, assume an attitude of complete worthlessness, and intensify the blush with an internal rant describing all your faults in great detail. Each of these reactions can be taught through conditioning.

The negative reaction depicting Kara having a meltdown could have been created in little as two episodes:
Six year old Kara is asked to put her dishes in the dishwasher, one drops and breaks. She feels bad about breaking Mommy’s dish. Mommy turns at the sound of the breaking plate and freaks. Wanting to really make her point, Mommy uses the toughest words she can find. Clumsy. Stupid. Careless. Or maybe these words just slip out because that is the way Mommy was raised.

Fast forward to the following week. Kara dawdles about putting her dish in the dishwasher because she might break it and make Mommy mad again, and lose her love. Mommy gets a little annoyed when she has to tell Kara the second time. Kara says she doesn’t feel well. Her stomach hurts. And it probably does, it’s clenched with fear as this six year deals with a no-win situation.
The plate drops out of Kara’s nervous hands, breaks, Mommy has a melt down, and the shame pattern is reinforced. Mommy has accomplished what she set out to do. She has created a woman dying for the approval of others like herself. But the trick is, she will never feel good enough to receive it. Unless she can fix her self talk.

By: Steph Bryans

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