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Grieving Steps: What Mourning Stages Will Help Me Deal With My Bereavement?
We should remember that mourning is a hugely important process for us and helps us deal with death and bereavement. If we fail to mourn or deny ourselves the opportunity to mourn, we may lay down problems for ourselves later in life. So what stages might our grief take? The first stage may be shock and disbelief. At this stage, we may even be pretending to ourselves that this death has not happened. We may deny it. This stage may last hours or weeks and may come upon us in varying degrees. What was our relationship with the departed? What were circumstances of the death? The answers to these questions may affect the sense of numbness we feel after we have lost someone. The funeral and the gathering together of our family and friends can help us come through this stage into a period of mourning. The next stage can be a period of acute or intense mourning. During this stage we are likely to feel a pain that seems to fill ourselves. We may feel we want to withdraw and we may actually feel physical pain as well. Sometimes we may feel this grief overwhelms us in great waves and cannot pass. We may well be lonely, upset and have difficulty sleeping. We may think about our own death to come and our mortality. The third stage is a period of acknowledgement of our grief. As we begin to be aware to ourselves that we are grieving and can understand this, there becomes a moment when we begin to recover . As we acknowledge our grief, the pain of losing someone can move towards developing memories with fondness. We do not forget the person we have loved, but we may begin to move away from just breaking down at memories of the past. We can begin to find ourselves again. These stages of grief can take time. The length of time each of us suffers does differ and of course the nature of the relationship with the person we lost makes a difference. Most of us can find our way through our periods of intense grief and mourning to find a place where, even as we recognise our life will never be the same, our desire to participate in life returns. There are some people who cannot get to this stage without help. If you feel you might be one of these, do not hesitate to seek help. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Dr Emilie Warren has wide experience of helping people cope with grief and bereavement as well as understanding their own fears around death and dying. She is an accomplished writer on the subject, hosting her own website, www.dealingwithdeath.com. She has a Master's degree and a PhD from Cambridge University in England. She is also an ordained Christian minister. For more help please see: www.dealingwithdeath.com/grieving-steps/ |
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