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Giving Kids the Power To Achieve Their Dreams

No matter what your child’s talents, you can make them feel loved and therefore have the power to achieve whatever they desire. This involves concentrating on your communication and individual relationship with your youngster, the language you use, the love you demonstrate, the faith and responsibility you give them, and just being happy with the child whatever their likes and dislikes, and whoever they are.

The way we think influences how we feel, our self-esteem and our acomplishments. I am positive many of us can recollect times when we had a notion, like for instance, “I know I will let the squad down once again”, and then, spot on to our word, we do just that. So being conditioned to have positive thoughts instead of negative can make all the difference to us achieving our goals, and even when a child is good at something, they can accomplish so much more and even be the best, if they believe they
can do it.

So how can we promote such a belief in our child?

1. Our language is very potent. Children respond fantastically to positive praise when they do something good, but equally as important is your willingness to look past the stuff they don’t do so great. Always look for, draw upon and build upon, the strengths, rather than the worst in your child.

2. Show your love to your kids, no matter what their age. As they become a teenager, this is something we may possibly not do as frequently. You must let them know you love them – it is your close, trusting and stable relationship with them that is the strong foundation on which they can build, and attain, anything in their great life.

3. We’ve all met the full-on parent who pushes their child to be good at heaps of things, to do their best in absolutely everything, and have high standards. It’s best for children to acknowledge, however, that they don’t have to be the best at absolutely everything, and that they respect their limits. A child who feels they have to be something they're not, will feel disheartened and a failure.

4. From an early age, support your child to be independent, doing things for themselves, beginning with the smallest of tasks like putting their books away, right up to running errands and finding a job. Giving kids responsibility gives them control and the knowledge that you beleive them to be trustworthy and responsible. If you’re always coming from a position of distrust and no confidence in their abilities, then they will respond accordingly.

5. When your child wants to do something for themself, well let him (within reasons of safety, of course). Unless you can find a convincing reason not to, always say ‘yes’ to their eagerness and enthusiasm in doing things for themselves. It shows you believe in your child and gives them the confidence to try new things.

Have you noticed that when you’re happy, other people smile at you? It is because of the way you are feeling on the inside that shows on the outside, even if you are not aware of it yourself. What you feel on the inside is projected outwards from you. The same as, in order to love other people and give love, you must first love yourself. Being happy and having a positive attitude and self esteem are more important than anything else because they are the nitty-gritty on which we and our children can build in order to do and accomplish anything in our life, for that reason to be successful in career, education or anything, we must be able to build relationships with others.

So instead of worrying about what your child is able to achieve or not achieve, focus on your communication and individual relationship with your child. Children will always have their strengths and weaknesses, be amazingly talented in certain things, and confusingly clumsy and slow in others. It doesn't matter whatt their talents, you can make your child feel loved and therefore capable in whatever they want to achieve.