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Hearing The Words That Matter
"I did no such thing. That's what you may have heard but that's not what I actually said." "Yes, you did. I know you did. You told me that because his Scorpio moon was on top of my Leo sun we have an incredibly strong bond...one that is virtually unbreakable." "Wait a minute. Let's get the facts straight. I never said his moon was top on your sun. I said it squared your sun! Do you not remember me telling you that the bond was formed by a square and that the square in astrology indicated a lot of problematic themes which would have to be resolved?" "Yeah, I remember something like that. But, you also said these problems could be worked out IF I was willing to wait." "No. I said it would take more than patience to work out this karmically troubled union." "But, that means the same thing, doesn't it?" "No, it doesn't. It means, from the very beginning, the relationship would suffer quite a bit of tumultuous fury." "I distinctly remember you saying that 'fury' would be the incredible sex we would have together." "Again, you misunderstood my words. Yes I did say you would enjoy an enormously explosive satisfying sex life but beyond that I never ever said you would be a permanent fixture in his life. There's much more to a relationship than sex." "I can't believe what you're telling me. I know he's going to leave Anna and marry me." "When did you decide this, Joanne?" "I didn't decide it; you told me that IF I were patient, I would be able to be with him. I know you said those exact words." "For the sake of argument, let's pretend I said that. Let's say I emphatically told you that with enough time, you could have him in your life, OK?" "Yes, yes you did say that. So?" "So do you honestly believe that six months is enough time for a man to leave his wife of 13 years and 3 children? "Yes. He's so unhappy and we're very much in love." "Come sit down. Rest. You're giving me the heebie jeebies pacing around like that. Let's look back over the composite chart together." "Can I have one of these Chocolate Chip cookies?" "Certainly." "First of all, he's Scorpio-a very passionate man. But along with his enormous physically passionate appetite, he's private and very slow to move. In fact, security means more to him than a Cancer." "I'm not Cancer. What does that mean? He's never going to leave?' "You see what I'm talking about. You don't listen. You only hear what you want to hear. Already you have gone from him leaving his wife to growing old with her for the next 50 years seeing their grandchildren marry." "So, we will be together?" "That mania of yours drives me crazy, Joanne. A little more stability might be in order. It does not help either one of you in the relationship." "I know. I know. You're right. We really both are high strung. But, I'm so impatient and I feel like it's so close that we'll finally be together. "Now, let us just look at the facts: with your Leo sun located in the 6th house of your natal chart, you are operating on quite a bit of carry over guilt. Whether conscious or unconscious, you do not like the heavy burden of guilt you are carrying being involved with a married man. It's just in your regal nature." "Well, I do feel guilty. But, I'm not the reason they're breaking up." "Joanne, they have not broken up, yet and you know that." "Yet!" "Your prideful ego is driving you to win. (Sun in Leo) His dominance to be in power and control is driving him to have what he wants, when he wants, as he wants, and with whom wants, with or without parameters." "Exactly what does that mean?" "It means, beside the aversive pull the two of you share in your natal chart because of a battle of the wills, one emotional the other physical, the sexual energy you enjoy could easily fuse out." "Are you saying that he could get tired of me?" "Oh My god, Joanne you are so exhausting with your dramatic outbursts." "What I'm saying is that unless you slow down, give the man some room to decide what he's really involved in, (why he's doing what he's doing) you may very well terminate the relationship, altogether." "Me? I would never do that." "You will if you start presuming and demanding." "But I tell you, I know he's unhappy, he loves me and we are going to be together. That's all that really matters. What else do you see in our chart?" "The fact that you have a Libra composite relationship is causing a little bit more difficulty than you may have bargained for. Librans have a way of not showing up for their lives. They experience the relationship in their minds pretty much. The sexual intensity belongs in the realm of "NOT" too much togetherness. Day to day might not work so wonderfully." "No, no. You got it all wrong. We have a genuine real face to face relationship, full of love and passion. We've even talked about what we would do when he's free." "Who talked about it?" "Me and Jerry." "Who?" "Well, me, but he was listening and I could tell he felt the same way." "You felt that way because you were playing it out in full panoramic color in your overly neurotic romantic Ava Gardner head!" "Susanne, why are you being so cruel today? You've never talked to me like this before." "Could it be you've never really listened to a word I had to say? You just heard what you wanted to hear?" "Stop it. Stop saying that. I know there are some positive things in this relationship that could really make it work. We are just made for each other." "I will grant you that: SOME positive things. The both of you are incredibly driven, highly sexed and deeply ambitious, not to mention possessive. So it's like two teenagers on a smoldering date, playing sexual 'catch me if you can' mind games." "I don't understand. You make it sound so cheap." "I said nothing about being cheap." "It's because he's married, huh?" "Where in the world did that come from?" "There can't be any other reason you're saying these things to me except you think I'm a slut to be seeing a married man." "No, that's not the reason, at all. You're not a slut. Once again, it is your Leo moralistic Lion nature raring it's feisty head. What I meant was, you enjoy the fireworks you experience when you're together." "You damn straight we do." "But, because the majority of your composite planets fall in the eighth house of Libra, neither of you are operating in the present. You are literally romping in the dark." "Of course we are." "No, not that kind of dark. You are both consumed with unresolved issues, burdens, secrets and matters of paranoia. With the square between your natal sun and his moon and having formed a Libra composite, death has been a primary factor in both your lives." "Just because my father died when I was seven and he lost his mother at 13, only goes to show you we have something in common. We can understand what it means to lose someone." "Ok. Now listen to what you are really saying." "What? What am I saying?" "What you are implying loud and clear is that you are involved in a desperate dependency departed deal! You are both operating off of an ingrained need to recapture a feeling of closeness. The fear of isolation, abandonment, rejection and most of all, not getting what you desire this moment, in order to secure keeping it---- is driving the union." "No. No. It can't be." "Yes, I'm afraid it is." "But, I do love him so." "I know you do and probably in his slighted pervasive Scorpionic way, he cares for you too. But neither of you are dealing in the present with each other but with unresolved demons who continually remind you of the pain you suffered and what you lost when having had no power to stop or change it. In other words, you are both using the other to work on some deep psychological goats running wild." "So,he's not going to leave his wife and marry me any time soon?" "Not that I can tell." "Oh well. I can wait another six months. He's worth the wait. Will things be better by then?" "Whatever you say, Joanne; whatever you say." Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com www.modeofcosmictherapy.com www.paulaandreapyle.com www.zabania.com |
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