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"help! How Do I Save My Marriage?" You Can Do It In Four Simple Steps...
If I could answer that, I'd be a rich man and on my way to the Bahamas! I can tell you that if your marriage is in trouble and you do nothing about it, the outcome is not going to be good. If you do something, there is a much better chance that your marriage will be saved. As a wise man once said, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take." If you are truly asking yourself, "How do I save my marriage," there are four simple steps you can take. You can start right now, but notice I said "simple." That is not the same as "easy." These steps are not easy but they can quickly change a troubled marriage for the better. 1) Take responsibility. Decide you CAN do something. Change always starts with one person who wants to change, and surprisingly, when one person changes, the other person has to change in response to it. What buttons do you let your partner push in you? What buttons do you push with your partner? Don't allow those buttons to be pushed and stop pushing the buttons. If you begin to change here(for example), your spouse has no choice but to eventually change too. You're not taking the blame, you're taking responsibility. The difference is this: if I am in a sinking ship, I can stand around trying to figure out whose fault it is, why we're sinking so quickly, and who I am going to sue when it is over. That's blame. Instead, I can choose to get myself and anyone else I can out of that ship. That's taking responsibility. When you need to know how to save your marriage, you need to recognize the ship is sinking. What will you do to save it? 2) Quit the blame game. Stop blaming your partner and stop blaming yourself. Marriages get frozen into a pattern of blame that shuts down any progress you might be able to make. Blame is our way of avoiding looking at the real picture. It's easy to point the finger and say, "It's their fault." It's also just as easy to point the finger at you and say, "It's all my fault." Blame can feel good in the short run, but in the long run it prevents real change from occurring and it will do nothing to save your marriage. 3) Get advice from experts. If other marriages have been saved, yours can be too. Experts can be a real help in these situations. Don't make the mistake of thinking that your situation is so different from every other situation. A therapist once told me, “Not too much new comes through my doors.” The story changes, but the dynamics stay the same. There's a whole new level of thinking required to make the right changes and do the right things to save a marriage in trouble. An outside expert is someone who can give you a fresh perspective and help you see the changes you need to make. 4) Take action. More damage is done by doing nothing. It is too easy to get paralyzed by the situation. Many people get so caught up in their own thoughts and fears about what may happen that they never take action. It is not enough to simply understand what is causing the problem. You have to act! Will your marriage be saved? If you follow these suggestions you can effectively answer the question, "How do I save my marriage," and you have a much better chance of saving it than if you do nothing. You can only do your part, but many times, that is all it takes. This is only the beginning. Where do you go from here? Ask yourself: Are you tired of the way your spouse is treating you? Do you feel like you're not being respected, heard or loved by your partner? Does it seem like you're fighting all the time about things like money and sex? You can't seem to resolve anything and the arguments just linger....? Has your partner cheated on you? Are you surviving the pain of an affair? Has your partner already walked out the door? There is a powerful and proven method that can get your marriage back on track, even if you and your spouse can't communicate about anything! Even if you are the only one who wants to work on it. Get your spouse to change their attitude... now! This method alone has helped turn around dozens of marriages. Learn a powerful 4 step formula to stop cheating dead in its tracks. Fall in love with your partner again, and get them to fall in love with you. Learn the methods that give you REAL answers and REAL results ... guaranteed. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Click Here and transform your marriage today--- and keep it that way for the rest of your life! |
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