How Do I Stop My Breakup? - I'm Supposed To Do What?
One of the worse uphill battles you can be involved in is a relationship breakup where you want your ex back. The thing is if you make one false move it will be over for good. The situation calls for a cool head, but what you really have is a hot head who does everything wrong!
The question is "Why do people do everything wrong in a personal crisis like a relationship breakup?" The answer is they follow their instinct, they follow their heart "it feels right" -- unfortunately, they don't learn what they should or should not do so just about every move they make, makes matters worse!
For instance, if you learned some techniques you would know what to do and when. You would know, for example, when you feel like calling your ex to stay cool and stay off the phone. You would also know the more you feel like pouring your heart out to your ex about how you feel, the more you should "put a lid on it".
Here's a real warning for you -- the techniques you're about to learn are new and not common knowledge. As a matter of fact, when you first read them, your gut feeling and you're heart will be screaming "this is wrong". Understand this, they have been proven to be effective over and over in situations like yours. They have even been effective in the most complicated situations.
Technique No. 1
The first thing you need to do is to agree with and accept the fact that your ex has broken up with you. This is a difficult technique and can cause you some major problems in your thinking because it's the opposite of what you want at the moment.
By following this technique, you can begin to not only understand why you need to accept the breakup but give you insight into how it can help the two of you get back together. If you think this through, you will realize that you have been pushing your ex away by your actions and probably making them more unhappy with you. By following this technique, you give your ex time to respect you for "letting go" especially if you have been constantly nagging them to get back together. So, you accept and agree the breakup was good for the both of you, stop calling, stop nagging and by making these changes, you give them time to begin to miss you.
Technique No. 2
Your ex needs to know you really mean business and one of the simplest ways to show how serious you are is to stop communicating with them on all levels. It probably feels wrong to you, but it's an important step to getting your ex back because it shows them you are really serious. How can your ex miss you if you don't leave them alone? This gives you both time to think about the reason or reasons for the breakup in the first place. It gives you some space to recover and is excellent for your mental health since breaking up is a stressful situation and when you're under stress you don't think clearly. Plus, this technique sets you up for the next technique.
Getting your ex back will require change on YOUR part. The popular definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. By this definition, you have to change if you want the situation to change.
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