You've probably seen it a million times in real life, on television, and in the movies – the best man's toast can go really well or take a dreadful dive in a matter of seconds. Usually, the best friend of the newly married man is expected to give a toast in front of family, friends, and relatives that the groom is still trying to impress. Sometimes, in a delightful drunken slur, the best man may reveal embarrassing details that the groom would rather not share with an attentive audience, while others deliver a well-prepared toast that brings tears. Below, you will find a few tips on how not to botch one of the most important and memorable parts of a wedding reception:
Make a List
As a best man, you have been chosen to give the toast because you possess a close connection to the groom. You probably know him inside and out, but there are some things that should remain between the two of you. It is not the goal to embarrass the groom on his wedding day just to get a few laughs. The toast should come from the heart, as well as from the head. Making a list of important points will help you to brainstorm. Some of the things you should consider include his best qualities, favorite memories, how he first described his bride-to-be, and the things that make them a great couple.
Dig Deep
A best man toast may go beyond his own personal experiences with the groom. Try to find inspiration through funny stories that his college roommate, sibling, or mother may tell you. It is also important to remember that the groom is not the only person you talk about in the toast. The bride should also be mentioned and because of that, you need to do a mini-background check and ask her family and friends about some of the things that would make a touching tribute.
Respect the Audience
There are two audiences that the best man toast affects. The first is the bride and the groom. Since this is a very important day in both of their lives, saying things that will make them feel uncomfortable is not the way to go. The second audience involves the family and friends gathered around to listen to your every word. Children might be present, as well as grandparents. The toast should be kept respectable and free from words and phrases that would be censored on public television.
Stay True to Yourself
Some best men try to infuse their toast with rhyming words or take a stab at poetry. If this is not a part of your personality, it is suggested to leave this kind of technique to the professionals. It is also important that you are the one that writes the toast and that everyone can tell that your words come from the heart.
Make an Impression
Many toasts begin with a funny opening line and end with an emotional point. Often, a successful toast is one that can make audience members laugh, cry, and reflect.
Write it Down
In a moment filled with excitement, it can be pretty hard to remember your words. Writing down your speech on a piece of paper or carrying around an index card with a couple of notes will help one remember the direct quotes and key points to make.
Watch the Clock
A wedding toast should typically last for about three to four minutes. Before you take the "stage," you should rehearse your final speech and time it as well. It is important to know how long you will be speaking on the big day, in case you need to shorten it a bit.
