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How To Arouse Her In Bed

“I have been with my girlfriend for a while now but I cannot make her have orgasm. This is the 1st time it has happened. I am trying to find a new answer. All the old tricks no longer work. I just do not feel I can pleasure her in bed!”

“I have tried many new things and I still cannot seem to have an orgasm. Many of my friends say their 1st was while masturbating, but that just does not turn me on at all.”

“I have been having sex with my girlfriend for about 7-8 months. I can give her 8 orgasms without even trying but I myself can never get one. She tries really hard and I am definitely attracted to her so I do not understand why I never get myself to reach orgasm.”

When two parties are physically and emotionally connected, sex can be wonderful, pleasurable and satisfying and the resulting orgasm can become very strong. However, some people have difficulty in achieving orgasm (as can be seen in the above 3 cases). Still, orgasm does not have to be something that is out of your reach. There are ways to experience a powerful orgasm which I am going to share with you. This only requires a little practice and a few helpful tips.

When you or your partner has difficulty in reaching orgasm, the 1st thing to do is not to set orgasm as the objective for every lovemaking session. When your mind becomes too concerned about the goal of reaching orgasm, you will get so stressed up that your chances of actually reaching it, will decrease significantly. Sex is a wonderful activity that you should enjoy free of any hindrance and disturbing thoughts.

What you should do is to focus on your partner and how his/her body connects with your own. You find out what feels great and keep doing it. You try to discover the place where your touch gives your partner the most sexual arousal. You get your mind to focus on the sensations and movements of your bodies. Your aim is to react accordingly to each situation without planning anything. The more you are able to let go and simply enjoy the lovemaking process, sex will get better.

If you are struggling with achieving a powerful orgasm, it may be because you are trying to rush through the lovemaking process without spending enough time on foreplay. Good and sufficient foreplay can lead to more powerful feelings of pleasure and raises your chances of orgasm. If you are able to slightly tease each other by stimulating those areas near to your partner’s highly-responsive erogenous zones and come close to orgasm without actually achieving one, this will build up sexual tension, resulting in your final orgasmic moment being a spectacular experience.

Sometimes the best way to learn how to have orgasm is to practice on your own. This will need you to take the time to get to know your body and what sensations you find most pleasurable. For women, using a vibrator can be helpful. A vibrator is one of the ways of raising your self-pleasure in a no pressure environment. There are no hard and fast rules on how to use a vibrator; the emphasis is on what feels good for you. Another way is to just touch your own body without worrying about whether or not you have an orgasm. The objective is to find out the place(s) you like to be touched; the way and the rhythm of touching that give you most sexual pleasure. The more you are able to achieve orgasm by yourself, the better you are able to recognize the signs of pleasure. When making love, you can guide your partner in how to stimulate you effectively with this new found knowledge.

For men, simply changing your way of masturbating can help you to achieve a more powerful orgasm. When pleasuring yourself, focus less on speed and take your time to enjoy the feeling.

By: Ng Eng Hou

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Sex is fun when you can let your thoughts go, take more time and focus on the wonderful feeling between the both of you. When you stick to this way of approaching sex, orgasm can happen spontaneously. If you want to know more about how you can rock her world every time you lead her into the bedroom, you can click on 500 Lovemaking Tips and Revolutionary Sex.

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