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How To Ask A Girl Out – Good Ways To Ask A Girl Out
Here’s an email I received from one of our readers. It’s about how to ask a girl out, which is a situation that a lot of guys don’t know how to handle properly. So let me explain how a Mack takes care of business… * * * * * Hi Dean, I just finished learning your Bad Boy Seduction program and it was FILLED with awesome information! But I’ve got a question that I’m hoping you can answer. There’s this really hot chick that I see all the time at my gym. We’ve chatted a couple of times and I think she might be interested in me, but I can’t be sure. I want to ask her out, but I want to make sure that if I do, she’s going to says “yes.” It would be weird and awkward if she turns me down and then I have to keep seeing her at the gym, you know what I mean? Thanx, Aaron >>> DEAN CORTEZ RESPONDS: When it comes to asking a girl out, my first piece of advice is that you shouldn’t think about it as “asking her out on a date.” When you “ask a woman out,” and you frame it as a “date,” you are already losing points with her. If you’ve read the best-selling Mack Tactics book, you know that a key part of making your “transformation” into a Mack is re-framing the way you view yourself and women. You also need to re-frame your attitude towards dating, because let’s face it, trying to date women in the conventional way (asking them out to dinner and a movie, etc) simply does not work most of the time. You’ve got to take an original, unexpected approach. There are two reasons why you should never ask a girl on a date in the “traditional” way… Reason #1: You are making your attraction to her completely obvious. You’re basically communicating to her, “I like you, and I’m hoping you will like me, too, so let me take you out and spend money on you in an attempt to show you I’m worthy of dating you.” Reason #2: If you ask a girl out and she declines for whatever reason — even if she is honestly busy, or maybe she’s got a boyfriend — then it’s going to make things awkward the next time you see her. You both know that YOU ASKED HER OUT, and SHE SAID NO. So, if you want to know how to ask a girl out the right way, the solution is to use a Mack Tactic that I call “The Innocent Invite.” Invite her to COME ALONG WITH YOU to an activity that you are already “planning.” The message you are sending is this: you’re a fun, cool guy with stuff going on, and here’s HER chance to come along and join you for an activity. You were planning to do this thing ANYWAY (or, at least this is how it sounds), so if she CAN’T join you, it’s not like she is “rejecting” you. There are many different types of “Innocent Invites,” but here’s one of my favorites: If she’s an attractive girl, I’m guessing that she dresses well, and has a nice sense of style. Use this to set up the invitation. When you get an opportunity to chat with her, ask her if she has any fun plans for next weekend, and then say, “I need to shop for a gift this weekend — my buddy Mike’s birthday is in a few days, and honestly I think he could use a fashion makeover. So, I want to pick him up a really cool shirt, or a pair of jeans. Actually, I’d love to get your opinion on it — come with me to the mall, if you help me pick out something cool, lunch is on me. What’s better for you, Saturday or Sunday?” (Notice, you’re presenting her with a “false choice”: you’re not giving her the option to say “no,” you’re asking her which day is better — Saturday or Sunday?) If she declines to go with you for some reason, it’s not really a “rejection.” You were going to the mall, anyway. You can always invite her somewhere else in the future. No worries. NOTE: Complimenting a woman on her “sense of style” or “fashion sense” is always effective. Attractive women put a lot of time and care into their appearance and she will appreciate this thoughtful compliment. (The WRONG approach is to tell her how “hot” or “beautiful” she is. She’s heard this from a million boneheads.) You could also invite her to come along with you to a bar or a cocktail lounge you’re “planning to check out.” A night-time activity is cool, too. But inviting her to accompany you shopping, during the daytime, is a very safe strategy. And this type of date has a lot of side benefits: - you’re walking around with her and being active, which burns off your nervous energy - Going into various stores with her creates all kinds of cool conversational topics. Visit a store that sells CDs and DVDs, and talk about the kinds of movies/music that she’s into. What’s her favorite perfume? What’s her favorite cologne for men? Women will divulge all kinds of information about themselves when they’re shopping, and naturally, she’s going to feel comfortable and relaxed in this type of environment. Women were BORN to shop! Bonus tip: go shopping with her in the late afternoon, around 4-5pm. The article of clothing that she helps you pick out for your buddy COULD be a gift that you give to a friend, or you’ll just keep it for yourself. When you finish shopping, buy her a meal, and do it at a place that serves drinks. Since it’s now after 5pm, it’s cool for you to order some cocktails or a pitcher of margaritas, and now the two of you can kick back and have your “date” — without it FEELING like a date to her. She’ll just feel like she’s spending time with a fun, cool guy, and going with the flow…play it right, and this “daytime meet” could wind up lasting until morning! For dozens of effective conversational tactics and strategies to use with women, sure-fire techniques on how to ask a girl out, and tips on how to ESCALATE the situation towards romance and sex, give Mack Tactics a try and learn how to get girls on a “rock star” level. Remember, when you download Mack Tactics and test out our books and videos, you’re protected by a 60-Day, Money-Back guarantee. If you aren’t blown away by the quality of this program, and if you don’t see immediate results with women, we don’t want to keep your money. It’s that simple…so why not take the world’s #1 seduction system for a test drive now? Click here and I’ll show you everything that comes with this legendary, best-selling program: How To Get Girls: The Mack Tactics “Ultimate Edition” Package Your Wingman, Dean Cortez Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Do you want to learn how to date Asian women and be the confident, attractive man that Asian girls find charming and irrestible? 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