Are you tired of not having mastered the art and science of dating, after years of effort? Are you scared of picking up new women? Are you fed up of learned helplessness after yet another failure in the dating game? Don’t be filled with panic. I was that way once. I used to be scared and wary of dating and picking up women for many years after years of trying. But I later developed the technique through reading and effort. I now know that with the right technique and mindset, one should have no problem in this area. Here are a few tips that I learnt with perseverance, and they worked wonders for me.
TECHNIQUE
Make no mistake about it, in the art to pick up women, you must have the technique or the effort will be crowned with failure. This is what sets the ball rolling, the passport into the exciting world of dating. If you want to watch a movie or attend a musical concert, you must have some cash on you before you can be allowed entry, unless you have a special invitation and you do not have to pay to get in. What obtains at the cinema and the musical concert also obtains in the world of dating. In a nut shell, you must have mastered your pick up lines, memorized material, and the art of being cool and a master of the game. Sure, even this takes a lot of trial and error, but you would have mastered an art you have always wanted to be cool at.
MINDSET
To be a writer for instance, you must have perseverance, self-discipline, be focused, and have mental toughness. The same qualities are needed by a musician, the scientist, the anthropologist, the boxer, and the footballer. Who says the art of dating and picking up women does not need the same qualities? You must learn to have will power and the ability to slug it out if need be, the recuperative talent to bounce back after a failure.
GRADUAL CONDITIONING
In boxing, the amateur starts to box by going three rounds. As a new professional, he is made to fight for four rounds. When he builds up stamina and fine tunes his technique, he is , made to fight for six rounds. The conditioning goes on until he has to fight for twelve rounds in a championship bout. As in boxing, you must gradually condition yourself in the game of dating. Unfortunately, there is no other way to become a master in the art except you do this. In the first week, you should try to speak to six women you are meeting for the first time. In the next week, you should increase the number. By the third week, you will start to have the experience needed to become successful in the art.
POINTS SYSTEM
This is another way to gradually condition yourself to be able to pick up women with ease. You can break up the parts of picking up women into the length of time of conversation, the ability to get the phone number and contact address, and the ability to kiss a woman on the first day of meeting her. You set up points for achieving each item and allocate them to yourself for being able to achieve each or all the parts. You set up a new goal, a target which you have to meet through the points system. As you meet each target and set up new ones, you will find yourself being able to master the art of pick up.
BE DETACHED
In this business, you have to learn to be emotionally detached. The art of pick up or dating should be seen as a game to be enjoyed and a performance in which you have to make progress. There must be a willingness to learn and to build up your skill and capacity. It must be fun, an art which you enjoy to partake in at any moment.
