How To Ask Questions To A Girl And Enjoy A Deep Connection
It should be pretty obvious that the only way you are going to get to know a woman is to sit down with her and ask her questions. I've seen lots of lists of dumb "date questions" for you to ask like "If you could have one super power, what would it be?" but these just come off as forced routines that don't really bring the two of you closer together. These will only hurt your chances with the woman.
"Date questions" are the worst, and you should just forget about them. Try just having a real conversation with the girl instead. Using these idiotic questions is just something that guys use to help them feel better when they are anxious or nervous about talking to the girl. Using a bunch of canned questions will only hinder any real connection between you and the girl.Stop thinking so much and just be present of what is going on in the moment with you and her. Pay attention to how she responds to things and start to really care about her experience. You'll never be at a loss for words .
Lot of guys fall into the trap of asking too many "yes/no" type questions.If you do this, stop it. This will turn awkward fast as your conversation starts to feel like an interview.
Are you from around here? - Yep.
Do you work in the city? - Yep.
Do you like cats? - Nope.
Is this conversation getting under your skin? - Yep.
Open-ended questions are a lot better because they make the girl offer something personal to the conversation.
Which part of town do you like the most? - Definitely the XYZ District. I just moved there, in fact.
Really? What do you like so much about it? - I like all the history and character there. blah ...blah... blah.
This isn't too hard.
Ask her stuff about her life experiences. Try to get a better understanding of how it feels to be her. Keep looking deeper by asking questions like "How does that make you feel?" or "What was that like?" You can also pay attention to how she reacts to things that you talk about and ask things like "You seemed a bit sad when you were telling me about your job. Tell me more abou that." This ofent opens things that the girl didn't even know about herself.
Once you do this a few times, you will begin to feel a very intense connection that will make it seem like the two of you are in a bubble, alone from the rest of the world. You might be at the craziest club around, but the two of you will feel like you are completely isolated from everyone else and in a world of your own.
Now isn't that a huge improvement from just scraping by by asking "What's your favorite kind of movie?".
So don't rely those stupid questions. Just show up to the interaction and let things flow automatically. Ask questions to the girl and start to really get an understanding about her life. So feel free to ask anything that you want, so long as you are authenticly interested in the answer.
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Brian Broderick used to be a shy "nice guy" that was completely clueless with women. Now in a relationship with the girl of his dreams, he enjoys helping men reach their dating goals.
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