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How To Be Happier
How to be Happier: Factor One People who seek happiness in the accumulation of stuff are doomed to remain unhappy at a basic, deep down, forever, level. Having stuff (cars, houses, boats, jewelry, fine clothes, etc.) can be fun and enjoyable but never confuse those things with deep down forever happiness. How to be Happier: Factor Two People who seek happiness by establishing great power for themselves are also doomed to an unhappy existence. Having power may contribute to ones sense of safety and security. It may even require others to act as if they are your friends and as if they respect you. The friendships and respect one acquires through power are typically shams as demonstrated by the fact they evaporate once the power is lost. How to be Happier: Factor Three A close corollary to Factor One above is to seek happiness by accumulating wealth. Again, it my be used to contribute to ones momentary fun and pleasure but those never equate to basic, deep down, happiness. The happiest wealthy people I have ever known are those who take great pleasure in giving most of it away to worthy people and causes. How to be Happier: Factor Four Seeking happiness through fame is a lot like seeking happiness through power. If you find that you need to be famous to feel good about yourself, you still have major happiness problems because you are relying on others to make you happy – to adore or idolize you – rather than finding happiness within yourself. How to be Happier: Factor Five So, if the answer to how to be happier cannot truly be found in stuff, power, wealth, or fame, what's left? Consider the indisputable, essential, basic, behavior necessary for the survival of the human species. It defines happiness at the most fundamental biological and social levels – the truly human levels. Until the world is populated with people who each regularly contribute to an environment that is safe, pleasant, friendly, productive, fair, accepting, and reasonably predictable, life can never be free of fear, sadness, and low self-esteem - the big three contributors to a lack of deep down forever happiness. To achieve the ultimate in personal happiness there is only one proven and defensible route: Every day, know that you are doing what you can to improve the lot of folks in your little corner of mankind. Living among thieves, killers, greedy, dishonest, and maladjusted people cannot allow one to experience true, forever, happiness. In such situations life will always be clouded by fear, uncertainty and anxiety. Fix those social human problems and you will find deep down forever happiness. If, when you go to bed at night, you can honestly believe you did things that day that contributed to making the world a better place for humanity, you can experience that remarkable, genuine, powerful, deep down feeling of genuine happiness. If, instead, you tend to lay there and tally up the number of people you defeated or put down in some way, or managed to move aside to improve your position or how you used your resources in greedy, self-serving ways instead of for the betterment of mankind, any pseudo-positive feelings you may have will not only be fleeting for you but signal that you have all quite selfishly contributed to the ultimate destruction of mankind. How could such activities possibly bring happiness? The bottom line answers to, “How to be happier,” are to give rather than take; help rather than hurt; sow rather than reap; build rather than destroy; and cooperate rather than compete. If your mind is set so it can't do good, there are self help programs that can help you move toward true happiness. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Tom Gnagey is an educator, psychologist, social philosopher, and writer. He has practiced clinical psychology for 30 years. For information about his successful, proven, self-help and personal growth program, Deep Mind Mastery, go to www.TomsBookNook.com or more specifically www.TomsBookNook.com/DMM.html |
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