If you are really interested in getting her back, there are some steps that you can take to help you be more successful. Don't just shoot in the dark and hope for the best; that's probably why she's not interested in you like she used to be. People do separate, but that doesn't have to be a permanent arrangement. Here are 5 simple tips to follow that will let your girl know that you are still interested in being a part of her life, that you are not a total jerk and that the two of you can possibly rekindle that old flame.
1. Reach out and touch her. If you want to show her you are still interested, start by showing her some attention. Being aloof is NOT the best way to show her you are 'the man' and playing hard to get seldom works at this stage. If you want to win her back, subtle (not creepy) touches can show her you are still interested.
2. Drop a line. Send an email to keep in touch. Don't flood her inbox with constant, mundane status updates or over-mushy poetry. If you don't find casual ways to communicate, you will not be able to get her back. If you want to win her back, stay in touch, but don't crush her.
3. Only have eyes for her. Stay away from other girls. You may think she is understanding enough to put up with your roaming eye, because you are 'just reading the menu', but every girls wants to be the only woman for her man. If you wan to win her back, make sure she knows that she really is.
4. Remember it. Treating her like the princess she is (to you) means remembering the important things in her life. Write it down, email it to yourself, ask your mom to remind you; do whatever is necessary to remember her birthday, anniversary of your first date, the day her cat was born or whatever else is important to her. If you want to win her back, make sure that if it's important to her, it's important to you.
5. Call and text. As with email, use some discretion. But do reach out to her. Perhaps after being with her for a while you have become complacent and stopped letting her know what is going on in your life. Let her know that you are thinking about her when you are thinking about her. Don't let her imagine that you are with someone else (and don't be out with someone else!). If you want to win her back, make sure she know she's still on your mind frequently.
There really is no exact process or recipe that you can follow to win her back, but these tips are some pretty clear suggestions on things that you probably used to do but now have slipped by you. These tips are mostly about communication, which is vital to any relationship. It's important to communicate, but it's also important to not overdo it.
