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In Bereavement Suicide Takes Its Toll On Loved Ones
Six Major Considerations are:- Shame is often felt by suicide survivors Although many stigmas have gone from our modern society, suicide is still a taboo subject with a stigma attached to it. Shame can prevent normal mourning and communication in families which is such an important part of grief. Normal mourning is an important process in coming to terms with grief and bereavement. Guilt is commonplace after suicide Individuals and families can have strong feelings of responsibility for what has happened to the deceased. (This can be worse if there was family conflict). The consequences of this should be understood. Some people can feel they need to be punished and so set themselves on a course where this will happen. For example through turning to drugs, alcohol and self- abuse. It is important to be aware of feelings of guilt so that they can be considered and discussed. Blame is also an expression of guilt Blame can be interpreted as a projection of guilt by some people. In a family in conflict there can be trigger moments for blame, which could be a small or irrelevant part event. Blame might also be interpreted as a way of winning back control after an event that is totally outside our control. By understanding blame, especially if it is projected, and realising it may be a replacement for our feelings of guilt, it can be easier to deal with. Intense anger at rejection is common Anger can be projected towards the person who has committed suicide. The survivor can feel abandoned and left behind. Their own existence can be made to be diminished. The anger could also be projected towards them as you are cross as you loved them and you have been ignored. Anxiety and Fear Can Develop There is an old myth that suicide is catching. This can be strongly felt by the children of suicide victims. For parents, parenting ability is sometimes questioned. Hereditary factors are feared. Anxiety and fear is a natural reaction anyone who has survived a suicide will need to understand. Conclusion Anger, loneliness, guilt, shame and blame are all reactions to the loss of a loved one. These reactions can be extreme if we are close to someone who has taken their own life. In these circumstances, it is important to seek professional advice for you and our family, especially if your feelings appear to be out of control. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Dr Emilie Warren has wide experience of helping people cope with grief and bereavement as well as understanding their own fears around death and dying. She is an accomplished writer on the subject, hosting her own website, www.dealingwithdeath.com. She has a Master's degree and a PhD from Cambridge University in England. She is also an ordained Christian minister. For more help please see: www.dealingwithdeath.com/bereavement-suicide/ |
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