Kids Back Talking - Options For Parents And Teachers

If you read some of the parenting forums, there are quite a few people who advocate spanking and other forms of physical punishment when trying to deal with kids back talking. If you are one of these and also live in DC, just bear in mind that an open palm is allowed for spanking. If it is a fist or the palm is closed, this is regarded as abuse. Also, bear in mind that kids can call 911 and have you put in jail. Somebody has joked that as the kids do not know how to read, they may well have difficulty in dialing 911! There is a safer and more civilised way of dealing with these kids back talking when they are calling their sibling or father vulgar names. This is the use of behavior modification techniques and it is the best possible way of dealing with problem children, that I know of .


Let us face it. Many parents do NOT do anything about kids back talking. Go to any mall and you will notice the lack of respect which is also extended to teachers. Fortunately there are some parents who realize that behavior modification techniques can really work and can be successful in getting the kids back on track.

Here are some ideas of the kind of strategies one can learn on a behavior modification course. Rewarding the very young kids for good behavior with a hug is so important, rather than just telling them verbally. Kids at that age can hardly understand the verbal message.

With older kids talking back in class, a teacher can always make use of the phone, if it is there, and call one of the parents, in front of the kids.

At home, parents can try and find the cause of kids talking back. With very young kids, it may due to frustration or tiredness. But with older kids, it may not be so easy to track down. One suggestion is to write down the situation every time there is back talk. That may help you to see a pattern and also a solution.

Giving vent to your own anger and frustration is unlikely to work. You are descending to the level of the child and what is worse, there can hardly be clear judgment when you are in that state. Anger ,violence and negative feelings are definitely tools that must NOT be in your weaponry.

Also, how you react is going to be imitated by the child so you have to be a role model - the child will always base his or behavior on yours and they are amazingly good at copying. All your actions as a parent or teacher should be aimed towards finding out the real cause of the kids talking back. Once you have done that, you can talk to the child in a calmer moment and analyze with him , what sort of behavior is acceptable and some behavior is just over the limits that you have set. The best technique of all is to work out with him what he can do in that situation. You can discuss with him what the options are. Find out what other options are available in behavior modification techniques for dealing with kids back talking.

By: William Locke

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