Let Go Of Your Anger And Improve Your Life

When you decide you're done holding onto all that anger, an extremely useful method I have found is called the ‘forgiveness letter.’

It 1st came to my attention when introduced by John Grey, and it stayed in my mind. I found it useful, so I thought I'd pass it along. It includes writing three types of letters.

It's important to first get a handle on what you are angry about, so the first one you'll write is named the ‘feeling’ letter.

When you are sure what you are holding onto, start by writing a letter to the individual, place or thing that consumes you. It might be a letter to a person who disregarded your feelings, who's not accomplishing what you wish him/her/it to do, or write it to God for allowing someone you loved to die -- Wherever your discomfort sits. It doesn’t matter if the recipient of the letter is alive or able to study the letter or not. Just create the letter and encourage your emotions of damage, frustration, betrayal, disappointment, etcetera, to flow onto the paper.

The second letter is known as the ‘reaction’ letter.

This is a letter, in which you write an imagined response, from the perspective of the the source of your pain, written for you. It’s a letter written for you that says specifically the kind and loving things you need/want to hear. It does not make a difference if these are sentiments that would ever be said or not, what’s important is that you express all that you desperately need to listen to.

The 3rd letter is termed the ‘forgiveness’ letter.

The forgiveness letter is usually a shorter letter written from you for the responsible party. This one should consist of phrases of forgiveness and love. In case you're not yet in a position to do that, then let them know in the letter that you have an interest in forgiving them. Go on composing various versions of the letters until finally you are in a mindframe to let it go.

If you're discovering the rage and harm are too much to put into words and you’re just much too furious to sort out the situation yet, then I have one other fun series of drills to assist you discharge some of the anger and hurt.

Get a bunch of small filled water balloons. Or perhaps 2 or 3 dozen. Find an open lot or an alleyway, (with at least one big target). Hold the water balloon within your hand and picture every one of the feelings of injury, hate, disappointment, frustration, more anger, fury, etc, is now resides in that egg.

Then hurl it against some thing solid (except a person, of course.)

Listen to, notice and experience the lovely splatting sound that it will make when it hits.

Let the feeling of the release of energy from the egg wash over you and experience the lightness that comes with it.

As the saying goes, 'rinse and repeat' as often as you want to.

Your job this week is to have a look at the places of your world in which you might be holding back forgiveness.

Do the drills to discharge your grudges and give to yourself the gift of forgiveness.

Be very good to your wonderful self every day.

And most importantly keep in mind:

You are a perfect being.

God Loves You.

You were created in perfection,

by perfection,

for perfection.

Your success is guaranteed.

By: Susan Montello

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Amy Long is the president of the Universal Life Church Seminary and the author of several books on ceremonies, as well as the Spirit Quest course, from which this article comes. It's a great course on spiritual development and growth.