Marriage Advice – This Could Save Your Marriage

I want you to remember back to when you and your spouse first met. What was it about them that attracted you? There must have been something special that made you fall in love with them. So, just stop for a moment and let your mind wander back.

Sometimes, the busy-ness of life (work, kids, bills) takes a real toll on a marriage. No marriage feels fulfilling all the time but if you are feeling that it is never, or rarely fulfilling then it is time to make some changes. Marriage must become a priority in order for it to be the rewarding relationship that it is meant to be.

I asked you before to let your mind wander back to when you and your spouse first got together. Do you remember how excited you were to spend time together? Do you remember how you made it a priority to spend time together? Really, this is even more important now than it was in the beginning. It is relatively easy to “love” your spouse when the relationship is new and everything is exciting. But sometimes when we’ve been with someone of a long time we find it hard to love because our feelings may have changed.

I think it is really important to realize that real love is a choice and not just a feeling. That means that when you are bored or frustrated with your spouse you choose to love them and commit to making the relationship better.

So, here are some ways you can show your spouse that you choose to love them.

Remember that any good relationship takes time and effort. It is easy to fall out of those good habits you had when your relationship was new. Spend time together, have fun together, make it a priority. Even a strong relationship will start to flounder if you take each other for granted. Yes, all of those other things in your life are important, but, if your marriage is struggling then the chances are that you will not be able to put your best into all of those other areas either. If you are unhappy, it will effect your job, your relationship with your children and every other area of your life.

Put the spark back into your marriage. It is important that you make romance (not just physical intimacy) a part of your marriage. Show your spouse that you appreciate them, shower them with your attention, give them gifts for no reason, and help them with chores around the house. Again, didn’t we all do these things when we were first married? And surprise your partner once in a while. Do something totally unexpected. I think a huge problem in many marriages is that we tend to grow bored with each other because we think there are no surprises anymore.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you have already done all of this stuff in the past, you won your spouse and now you shouldn’t have to work so hard at keeping them. If you want your marriage to be successful you have to keep doing these things. Make it a habit. It just could save your marriage.

By: Jasmine Kelly

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As a teacher and a wife of 23 years, Jasmine Kelly loves sharing tips which have helped her and hopefully will help others. She has a strong desire to see people in happy fulfilling relationships. If you have found this article helpful or if you would like to find some resources which can help you on your journey of marriage rescue then please visit Marriage Rescue.