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A website situation had me irate.I was not even aware I was handling the situation successfully until post-conclusion reflection. Let me take you through what happened recently and my response. I was working with an online marketing consultant for some time. When the work was finished, about a month afterwards I received an email where my former consultant (and household name) was pitching a similar membership plan to the one I have for the Meditation Masters Network. I was irate! The betrayal I first felt made me feel like crap.Then I felt a lot of anger. I vented to my wife.I sent the email offer to other people and put in my two cents. I needed everyone to agree that I had been screwed, I was in the right, this person was a jerk. What I didn’t realize at the time is that I was venting. I feel venting about a situation immediately is a healthy thing to do, you don’t want to keep stress bottled up inside where it could manifest itself in your body somewhere. The important part about venting is the audience you choose. Vent with trusted people that are not part of the reason you are angry in the first place. Over the next few days of venting, I surveyed my trusted advisors for their reactions. This is not so that someone else can tell me how I have to feel about the situation. But hearing different opinions brings greater perspective on the situation in angles you can’t see, especially when emotionally invested. Next, I replayed all the events in my mind from the other person’s perspective and performed some further due diligence on the similar membership. It turned out it was not a membership concerning meditation, it just had meditation as part of its offerings. Furthermore, the people featured on this site had no overlap with the meditation experts I had gathered other than the person I was agitated with. A wise person who was my sounding board during my deliberations asked me a pointed question that made everything come together. *What is your desired outcome?” It makes everything so clear to ask that! Because events occur in life, people observe events, then people make judgments on events, that triggers emotions, and then more events occur. I had just observed a situation and judgments were flying! It is a position of power to first decide what your desired outcome is. This is much more beneficial than making constant judgements and having to cope with the emotional results of those judgments. Making judgements and having reactions is not conscious living, it is deciding to be a victim of your environment. I decided I wanted to know the details of this person’s involvement with the other site. And if I was satisfied the situation was benign, I wanted the person involved in the Masters Meditation Network (being a household name with a lot to offer).But, if he was directly involved in the competing site, I was going to end our relationship. So I setup a conference call and put it on the table. It turned out that I got very angry without having the full perspective.In hindsight, my conspiracy theory of my idea being stolen was all in my head. My anger was misdirected and I almost lost a great meditation teacher and business consultant. The situation did not give me everything I wanted, but if I had freaked out I would've been over-reacting.Instead, a household name in personal development is involved and committed to the Master Meditation Network. By following a plan of delaying my angry response, the Meditation Masters Network is stronger for it and my stress has dissolved. Office Stress Reduction 1. Feel the anger and don’t try to diminish or rationalize it 2. Vent with those you trust 3.Hear your trusted confidantes feedback and give it consideration 4. Decide what you want out of the situation 5.Go for what you desire 6. Accept the outcome and move on Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Scott Desgrosseilliers is the founder of TheMeditationMind.com and The Meditation Masters Network. |
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