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Persuasion And Influence-six Flaws Of Liars And How You See Through Them
Excessive Movement Observe if the person is touching his or her face or scratching their nose. Body language studies found that people have a tendency to touch their face or nose excessively when they are lying. The constant tapping of fingers or looking at a watch, signs of nervousness, could also give a liar away. Eye Contact? Observe the eyes of the suspected liar. Liars tend to blink a lot and avoid eye contact. Shifty eyes could also indicate dishonesty. After completing a lie, liars tend to look right back at you to see whether you believed their lie. Facial Expressions + Barriers Check their facial expressions too. People who are truthful smile using many facial muscles but liars smile just with their mouth. Liars also tend to create a barrier between themselves and the person they are lying to. They’ll try to fold their arms, or even put an object (e.g. a book) between them. Liars can also create this barrier by leaning back in their chair, sitting to the side or having their hands tightly folded in their lap. Discomfort with Silence Liars feel uncomfortable when there is silence in a conversation where they are lying. They thus include lots of details to avoid this silence. For example, if you ask your son where he went and he gives you details that he normally does not share with you, he may be lying. The excess of details could be a sign of their desperation for you to believe them. Inconsistencies For every one lie that liars tell, they would have to invent one or two more lies to protect themselves. They would need a great memory to remember what they said before so as not to contradict themselves. Most people do not have such great memories and once you can pick up the inconsistencies of what they are saying, you can be quite sure that they are lying. Echoing Liars also tend to echo back what you just asked them. For example if you ask them “did you take my book?” they would reply with “Are you asking me if I took your book?” The liar tries to push the blame elsewhere by turning from the accused to the accuser. When appraising whether a person is truthful or not, consider the situation in its entirety. Just because a person exhibits the above signs do not necessarily mean that he or she is lying. Base your judgement on other factors like how well you know the person. Before calling a person a liar and risk potentially damaging your relationship, be certain that the person is genuinely dishonest. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Vincent Kyle Ng is the founder of a website ( www.thesecretofpersuasion.com ) that aspires to help others by giving advice and information on the latest strategies in the fields of persuasion, influence, public speaking, relationships and much more |
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