“Do I have to be a handsome movie star in order to attract women?”
Well, being amazingly good-looking myself this has never really been a problem. OK. I’m kidding – I’m no oil painting. So what do you do?
Not knowing how to strike up a conversation is a very common problem. When you see an attractive woman in a bar or out and about, how do you start things going? How do you make a good start and make sure she thinks you're the best thing on the planet?
Ask Questions. Let me repeat that. Ask Questions.
Questions are the easiest way to find out what your chosen person really wants to hear from you. Questions can also induce emotional states in themselves. The question is also an inoffensive way of suggesting things and you should never underestimate the Power of Suggestion.
So, how you can use questions to your advantage?
Let’s imagine you've noticed a woman in a bar, and she catches your eye. You catch her eye and keep the eye contact just a tiny bit longer than normal and then drop your eyes away, wait a few moments and then glance back.
Is she still looking at you? If she is, congratulations my friend, you are in business. Now it’s time to begin your conversation and ask your first question, and in a casual a manner as you can muster.
The first thing you need to do is state a few facts. I suggest you say two or three irrefutable facts before stating something which you want her to agree with (this is called pacing and leading)
So as an example, you could say:
“Hi! It's good to find a bar that isn't too crowded, has decent music and has a nice vibe. Are you having a good time tonight?
Make sure that every time you say words like “nice” and “good” you point to yourself. Do it very subtlely and she will subconsciously register you as a “nice” and “good” thing.
She responds and says “Yes it's okay”
Then you go on to say:
“Maybe you can help me with something?” (now very few people will ever turn down a request for help!)
She says, “yes?”
You say:
“Well, it’s just that I can’t help thinking that some people overlook you sometimes.”
She frowns. “What?” she says, puzzled (now she’s curious)
You say:
“Well, you're clearly the most attractive person in here. Yet nobody has bothered to come and talk to you to find out whether you're a nice person too.” (As you say “most attractive person” and “nice person” point to yourself again, very subtly)
She laughs and says “You can tell all that just by looking at me, can you?” She smiles broadly and flicks her hair.
Bingo. You, my friend, are pushing at an open door. All you now need to do is a little more positive self referencing and you have got yourself a date.
Have fun and remember - only create good things – always leave people happier than when you met them.
Peter France is an established expert in the field of persuasion, influence and the art of effective communication. For a limited time, you can get Peter’s Mini-Course "How To Learn Covert Persuasion and Influence in 5 Days” completely free. To learn how to control any situation, claim your free course now at www.secretpersuasiontips.com
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