Relationship problems are another type of "stress" we all experience from time to time. We can experience conflicts with our spouse, children, parents, friends, colleagues, employees, bosses, or even with complete strangers. Many times when we have relationship problems, we often think it is caused by the other party who does not have good behavior or attitudes. However, the problem is we often do not notice the role that we play.
Contrary to beliefs, stress relationships are often not the result of couple not being lovely enough to each other. They are often due to the stress and strain caused by outside non-relationship factors. Having said that, there are however, a few basic relationship techniques that you must work at. In fact, you should work at a relationship just like how you work at customer relations. You must actively work towards having a good relationship and NEVER take a relationship for granted. Regardless of whether the conflict is with a spouse, a difficult relative, or a friend, relationship conflict, especially ongoing conflict, can cause a level of stress that has a significant negative impact in several ways.
Relationship Stress Caused By Family Conflict
If you experience conflict among members of your family, it may comfort you to know that you’re not alone. According to statistics, family conflict is very common and everyone will experience it somehow in their life. For my own perspective, I feel that family conflict is not caused by a lack of love, but is actually due to a lack of comfort in dealing with conflict among family members. Whether it is an open family conflict over the dinner table or a hidden feeling of uneasiness that remains unspoken, family conflicts obviously do cause a considerable amount of stress with a many people.
Relationship Stress Caused By Girlfriend/Boyfriend - Wife/Husband/Spouses Conflict
Most relationships have their significant conflicts arising when both partners begin to live with each other in a close relationship. Regardless of whether they are your spouse, a domestic partner or simply your current love in your life, all can cause stress. Do take note that I use the word "can" and not "must". Eventhough living together closely in a relationship with somebody can inevitably cause potential conflicts, it is not necessarily that you will lead to stress. In fact, stress arises when both of you are caught in an unresolved conflict and both of you simply do not want to reconcile with each other.
Many common relationship stress within a relationship are caused by concerns over money, health problems, conflicts within the family members and disagreements over the raising of a child. My personal advise is, both partner should remind themselves the values which first formed the relationship. By reminding yourself and your partner of how both of you started and built this lovely relationship over the years is a vital part of any conflict resolution. By using this method, both of you can go a very long way towards lessening the severity of a problem or conflict.
Relationship Stess Caused By Conflict With Colleagues And Bosses
Working in a job is not just about keeping ends meet by earning sufficient income. Our relationships with our colleagues and bosses are important too. Good workplace relationships can help you do your job better. When we have good relationship with our co-workers, we can make our everyday work enjoyable and less stressful. However, if your relationship with your co-workers are very bad, it can distract you and turn a normal job into nightmare.
One thing you must take note is that, the workplace, like any other places, is a place where a bunch of people come together with different personality traits. Just like you can find some coworkers who are easy to work with, you will also find difficult people at work.
My bottomline is that, respect is the foundation to all good relationships, including relationships with your colleagues and bosses. You just need to simply do your best to avoid offending those with whom you work with. Of course, there will certainly be the occasional prickly co-worker who is very easily offended and there is simply little you can do about that though.
Cure To Relationship Stress
If you want to resolve a conflict, the most efffective way is to LISTEN to the other party. How effectively we listen is at least as important as how effectively we express ourselves. Personally speaking, it is very vital for us to understand the other person's views, rather than just our own, if we are to resolve a conflict. In fact, if you can make the other person feel heard and understood, you can go a long way towards the resolution of a conflict.
Good listening can bridge the gap of any relationship conflicts between the two of you. Both of you can understand where the disconnect lies by listening closely to each other. Unfortunately, most people do not know that active listening is actually a much sought-after skill that not everybody knows. On the other hand, most people simply think they are listening when in actual facts, they are formulating their next response in their heads, thinking to themselves how wrong the other party is, or doing things other than trying to understand the other party's views. In addition, it is also very common for you to be so obsessed with your own perspectives that you simply can't hear the other person's point of view.
Once you manage to understand the othe party's views and they understand yours, it is the right time to come to a resolution for the conflict. The solution must be one that both of you can live with. Sometimes a simple and obvious answer comes up once both parties understand the other person’s perspective. In cases when the conflict is caused by misunderstanding, a simply apology can work wonders, and just by talking it out with each other can bring people closer together.
Joaquin Mah was once a sufferer of stress, anxiety and depression and truly understand how such conditions can create a living nightmare to anyone. He aims to help those who are suffering from such conditions by offering effective stress reduction techniques. For more information on stress relief tips on anxiety and depression, go to => www.managingstresstechniques.com
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