“rompryska, My Youth” Inspired By An Extramarital Affair Of Mine

The story “Rompryska, My Youth” and the poems derived from the character Rompryska are actually not only inspired but taken almost directly from my personal life in what in fact was one of many extramarital relationships I have had. I, naturally am aware that many would consider sexual relationships that a married person might have with one; to whom he or she is not married to as “cheating” or “being unfaithful” or many other things. I, however do not see it as such, and though I can understand those who have this point of view, I for my part can say with all sincerity that I have never seen any just or logical cause to being what is referred to as “faithful”. This not to be confused with the loyalty, that sees a couple stay together in good times and in bad, through sickness and in health and come to the aid of the other when life’s numerous situations calls them to.

After all what is being faithful, apart from two people who are possessive to the extreme of denying each other and themselves what they must have felt; at least once, simply so they might satisfy their partner’s ego or vanity to be able to claim that the person, he or she is with is for no other, not even for that which is commonly classified as “casual sex”. Hurt feelings this may cause, however it has no real right to, for if these people truly love the one they are with; they will not suffer but understand the one, who hopefully will do likewise when their turn comes to seek out pleasures of the flesh in others. This being the situation expressed in the song “Part-time Lover” by the singer, songwriter and piano player who goes by the name of Stevie Wonder.

I would even add that it was not lack of sexual contact in my marriage or anything else for that matter that contributed to my being an “unfaithful husband” but simply me, who never saw the need of fidelity, for I see it as prove of nothing, other the selfishness of those who wish to keep the one they supposedly love trapped, to themselves only. As for my wife, I can not say weather or not she has engaged as I have in extra marital sex, though she has stated she has not but what I can say with certainty is that I would not deny her the right to do what I have done should she choose to do so. Anger, would not be my reaction, the contrary would be as I believe a marriage or relationship should not stop people from engaging in sexual activities with others, any more then it should prevent them from sharing a meal with others. For if sexual intercourse brings joy, why should we mind the person we are with experiencing it with another; who at one given moment was able to provide that which we were not, for perhaps many a reason.

Many may see me as immoral, though I would say morality is a point of view, for there are none who be without morals but there are those who have a different set of the same then others. This, I would say is my stand on the issue of morality, not that mine be nonexistent or even less then others but diverse, however in what be “my set of morals”; they do not allow a “double standard”. This being that what is not acceptable for others is for me, it is this hypocrisy in many that I would call immoral. For I have never asked of those with whom I have been with in a relationship to be faithful to me while I was not willing to be likewise for them; nor have I ever failed to inform any whom I have shared myself with in intimacy that I was already held in a bond of marriage at the time.

Regarding, others who have engaged in extra marital affairs? If we were to make out a list of those who have engaged in such relationships, at one point or another; many would be the names included, such as Bill Clinton, Julius Caesar, Marc Anthony, F.D. Roosevelt, J.F. Kennedy, Lord Admiral Nelson, Stalin’s mother (who left it unclear who the father of her son really was), Frida, Diana Spencer, Edward Van Halen and wife, John Lennon, Prince Charles Windsor and even King Solomon. The last of which though known for his wisdom had wives which numbered in the hundreds or so it is believed. As an additional thought we could state that many others must have been guilty or doers of the same but since it is not known with certainty; I do not mention their names.

I, in all this feel fortunate to live in a time, when extramarital relationships are no longer punishable by law, as most countries have not such mandates that forbid them, and I state that it is fair that such it should be. First of all, because to a certain extent it means humanity has progressed from the days when such a affairs, not only caused scandal but put justice in to the acts of those who sought to kill those who had engaged in acts that were seen as an affront to the institution of marriage. This usually the woman, who supposedly had though sometimes, in some small towns a search party was formed to find the male culprit. All this as if the crime, if such it could be called had been committed against society is a whole or was a matter that went beyond those directly involved. For at the end of it all; whose affair should it be but those in the marriage if faith was kept or not?

In conclusion, I would like to say what be my philosophy concerning being faithful, regardless of weather it be in a marriage or any other kind of intimate relationship, for what is sex but two people sharing their bodies with one another? Does it mean we do not love the one we claim to because we at times, feel perhaps uncontrollable need to share our bodies with another despite already being married? Or does love by all necessity require monogamy to prove itself; for without this element it could not be? Or does monogamy serve as prove of love in the same manner that lack of which serves as prove to the contrary? The answers to these queries and many others, of a similar nature I leave to each individual but I will declare the following; which I do so as always for myself, if for nobody else. I believe with all my being that polygamy is something which should not be frowned upon, even by those who do not engage in it, as every couple should have the right to choose what they feel is best for them. For this above all; is what none other then those involved in the relationship should decide, specially a deity who has never had to deal with such choices or probably ever will.

By: Gianni Truviani

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My name is Gianni Truvianni, I am an author who writes with the simple aim of sharing his ideas, thoughts and so much more of what I am with those who are interested in perhaps reading something new. I also am the author of the book entitled “New York’s Opera Society” which is now available on Amazon. www.amazon.com/Yorks-Opera-Society-Gianni-Truvianni/dp/0595500161/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1226658466&sr=8-2