If you are asking how to save my marriage now, you obviously are in need of advice quickly. There is a technique you can begin using immediately that can have a strong psychological effect on your spouse and help you improve your marriage.
You need to break the pattern. Ever notice how you associate certain memories to smells or sights or sounds? The same is for people too. And those memories can be good ones or bad ones. Chances are your spouse might have some negative associations to you. So breaking the pattern means to change things about yourself.
Some of the easy changes are hairstyle, fashion, perfume and activities for example. Some others that might take more time are losing weight and getting in better shape. Can you imagine your spouse's reaction, if he had negative associations to you being 20 pounds overweight and a couch potato, if you get down to your ideal weight. He or she would probably be blown away.
I'm not suggesting doing something just because you think your spouse would like it. It has to be something you want as well, otherwise you won't stick with it, or you won't enjoy it or appreciate it.
Keep in mind that by making positive changes, you will become more confident which will attract more people to you, including your spouse. So spend some time and make a list of a few things you can change. You might have some changes in mind that would have a positive impact on him. As long as they are changes you want you should start with them now.
