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Save Your Marriage – 3 Powerful Tips
These three tips can have a powerful effect on your marriage if you are willing to commit to them. Even if you are the only one in the marriage who is applying them I assure you that they will have a positive effect on your marriage, and as you model these to your spouse hopefully they will see the benefit in applying them as well. Step one is to take a serious look at yourself. This will take some courage and some humility but it is a very important first step. You need to be sure that you know who you really are and what you really want. Realize that you are a valuable person, in and of yourself, you don’t need someone else to give you your worth. If you are not at peace in yourself then you are not going to bring peace into your marriage. Deal with the issues that keep you from being your best. Maybe you are too needy, too controlling, or have passive aggressive tendencies. These things need to be dealt with if you expect to have a healthy marriage. Step two is to try to discover the root problem in the relationship. You may be feeling that all of the problems in your relationship are the fault of your spouse. Keep in mind that any actions they are taking are symptoms of a deeper problem. If they are ignoring you, arguing with you, or having an affair you may think that is the problem. But this is only a symptom of something that is wrong in your marriage. And also remember that the two of you together form the fabric of your relationship. So any problems you have are due to the way you relate to each other. The third step is to be quick to forgive. There is nothing more difficult to live with than a bitter spirit. It is difficult for everyone around you but it is most harmful to you. Bitterness will eat away at you and your marriage. You can not repair a marriage if you refuse to forgive. Some people say they have forgiven but then hold the offense over their loved one. So, you need to practice (and it does become easier with practice) forgiving and releasing. Do yourself a favor and learn to let things go. Show grace and others will be more likely to show grace to you. Remember none of us is perfect and if you haven’t yet – you will one day mess up and appreciate grace. It is important to remember that change is never easy, but if you are in a marriage that needs to be saved then there are some changes which will have to be made. Some of this change may be really difficult but please consider what the payoff will be. A broken marriage can cause years of pain for the couple involved as well as their children, extended family, and friends. It is worth putting in the effort now so that you may be rewarded with a fulfilling relationship that could last a life-time. You can find more tips and some helpful resources at http://www.squidoo.com/Marriage-Rescue Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com As a teacher and a wife of 23 years, Jasmine Kelly loves sharing tips which have helped her and hopefully will help others. She has a strong desire to see people in happy fulfilling relationships. If you have found this article helpful or if you would like to find some resources which can help you on your journey of marriage rescue then please visit Marriage Rescue. |
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