Stop Drinking Guide...get Your Partner Off The Booze
Do you live with an alcoholic? Does their behavior change once under the influence of alcohol? Has the mood swing behavior reached your limit? The most intelligent thing you can do then is to stop trying to get them to give up boozing.
The nagging style just won't achieve anything except getting yourself emotionally stressed out, whereby defeating the object of actually being able to help somebody who means such much in your life. You can't get through to an alcoholic with verbal strength as it will just make the situation worse. You need to take the gentle and loving approach in order to win over the alcoholic and make some significant ground.
Always keep one thing very clear in your mind that you are trying to help out the person you fell in love with and not that alcoholic you see now. When they have had a few drinks and feeling a bit provocative, make sure you don't fall into the trap and just ignore them. You must keep this up to the point that they know that they can't win any longer and hopefully realize themselves that something is up.
I guarantee you that they will be extremely persistent and will try everything in their power to break you down, but remain firm. Avoid confrontation at all times by going into a different room, going out for a walk or just putting on some headphones and listening to some music. You are the key to this and only you have the power to make them really see the problems they have.
The really sad fact about this kind of relationship is that the non-drinker ends up being as mentally and emotionally ill as the one that drinks. You should see then how important it really is that the non-drinker sets their own boundaries to what they are prepared tp put up with while their partner is under the influence of alcohol.
The most important thing to remember when they get drunk and they start to irritate you is that you don't get emotional at all and certainly don't react to their bait, as they are just waiting for you to respond on their level. Just walk away and try to just look right through them in a vein attempt to focus on the person in them that you used to love.
Their addictive behavior should not be supported by you in any way including assistance to get into bed. You should not allow them to drive while drunk and don't let them force you into doing anything to help them while drunk. Never buy alcohol for them and definitely don't do anything special for them.
As soon as they are sober you need to change your chip and start loving them as you know and show them how concerned you and the rest of the family really are about their health. You will have to remind them of their violent behavior while they are drunk and how bad you feel when they get into this state. The most important thing is that they really do need reminding in order for them to be able to make any progress.
This is just the beginning in a way to help you and your partner and ease your pain through living with an alcoholic. Another way to ease the pain is by seeing that you are not alone in this world and you can share other peoples experiences at the blog provided by stopdrinkingadvice.org and you will be amazed at the amount of success stories and that couples really have managed to win the battle together.
