Stop The Blushing By Telling Yourself A Truth You Can Believe In
The truth is a funny thing. You can bend it, twist it wrong side out, or even deny it, but it always comes out in the end. What are the truths behind your blushing triggers? Fear of looking stupid or weak will often keep us from asking for help or admitting we need help. This pretty much ensures failure, and fulfills our drama’s desired outcome, which is to remind us we are stupid and weak. The truth is, if we would break the pattern by accepting ourselves where we are, the chances of achieving our goals would be greatly enhanced. So would our self esteem. (And we could say proudly to the world: “I’m a man, and I can ask for directions!”)
Initiating conversation or other types of public speaking anxieties typically have their roots in one basic lie. Something along the line of, “To know me is to hate me.” The Belief: That we know we really don’t fit in and just as soon as we draw attention to ourselves everyone else will know it too. We just aren’t good enough. Really is that true?
The truth is we are not going to like everyone, and not everyone is going to like us. So what. Concentrate on the positives and find a group where you can share validation and heaven forbid-have fun. In the meantime, remember that all opinions are valid, even yours.
Getting across that you take yourself seriously as a vital part of the whole is crucial to your survival in a grown up world. It’s not as impossible as it sounds. The key is to deliver your information or input as a well thought out, cohesive, and self validated thought. Practice well thought out observations. Make sure you know what you are talking about. Show that you validate yourself with confident body language. Head up, relax the shoulders, smile. Cohesiveness. Keep it short, but intelligent. No long stories or explanations at first. Watch your listeners eyes, if they drop or close, wind it up. They are not listening.
Now you’ve created the possibility of a new reality, one that is what you desire based on the real truth about yourself. Lift your sights up and to left and repeat after me:
1.I am competent and intelligent
2.Others respect my opinion
3.Because I validate myself
Each time you practice this new reaction to the stress of drawing attention to yourself you create a new reality, one of possibility. One you can continue to grow on, achieving new goals, living creatively and spontaneously.
Steph Bryans;
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