As a rule of thumb, though, it will be your female friends who will help the most. Let's face facts. You are in need of some "mothering" from someone other than Mother, who probably never liked any woman you've been with.
Women are great listeners and have that maternal instinct that men aren't gifted with. Women friends can also give you great insight into how other women think and why they act the way they do. Just as we men can perceive from other men their attitude and trustworthiness within minutes of meeting them, women can do the same with the members of their gender.
We men have other things going on in our brain when we meet a woman. We aren't judging them like we would a man, whom we have no sexual interest in. We are not noticing things about a woman, we are interested in taking to bed, that we should be noticing. If we met a man told us that he sold his car for top dollar and the engine blew a week later on the buyer, we would see him as someone who would try to take advantage of us in any future business dealing. He certainly would not be a good prospect as a trusted friend. Should a woman tell the same story to us, we would perceive her as just lacking mechanical knowledge of cars, especially if she had a great body. We would fail to ask her if she was having engine problems before selling it, or if she had a mechanic look at it beforehand. She probably did, but that lack of investigation about her, on our part, wouldn't stop us from trying to begin a friendship with her. Both of them are possible bad risks, but we'll continue to build a friendship with the woman because sex might be a reward.
It should be pointed out that you are the one who has to let your friends know you are in need of their friendship. That you want to talk with them and get their input. If you do not let them know that you are hurting from the end of the relationship, they will follow your lead. If you become distant they will give you that distance, because they will assume that is what you want. Don't expect them to know what you want. Let them know that you need to talk to somebody and that you want to know what they really think about your situation. This is all part of the healing process and it will assist in shutting down those hormones of "love" your brain is producing.
Be aware that the friends you choose to talk with must have been your friends before you initially met your ex. Do not approach mutual friends, with whom you developed a relationship when you were a couple. These friends will be of little help if their friendship was with both of you equally. They may also find that they do not want to speak badly of her, as they still consider themselves her friend as well. It is also possible that your ex may have already approached them and given an entirely different version to them, as to the reason she ended the relationship. You need to be close to long-time friends. They most likely accepted your ex into your circle only because she was with you. You want advice and assistance from your friends - not hers.
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