Surviving The Loss Of A Loved One

Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult and profoundly life-changing experiences that a person can go through. Many people who have recently experienced the death of someone they cared for are concerned that they will never feel “right” or happy again, or that the pain they are feeling will remain a constant for the rest of their lives. This is especially true for people who have not suffered such a loss in the past, although they are not the only ones who experience these fears.

Some people living with grief find it useful to learn that their experience is typical. This does not only help them feel less alone with their feelings, but also offers hope that they will be able to survive this terrible experience. Coping with feelings of intense loss is not easy, but it is possible.

What is “Normal”?

When it comes to handling intense emotions, nearly everything is normal. Everyone handles shock and pain in his or her own way. For example, it is perfectly normal to:

Cry, or not. Some people worry that crying is a sign of weakness that could make them a “burden” on those who might worry about them. Others worry that not crying shows they are not truly missing their loved ones. Neither one is true; crying helps some but not others.

Experience unexpected “triggers.” Sometimes mourning people seem to turn a corner and begin to feel better. Then, something reminds them of their loss and they are suddenly in pain again. This is a normal experience that should lessen with time, but it may take a long time.

Feel irrational anger. It is human nature to look for someone or something to blame for our suffering. Sometimes there is no logical target for our anger, so we begin to focus on something that cannot really be to blame. As long as this anger does not interfere with your ability to function, it is perfectly normal.

Of course, the fact that the pain you are feeling is typical does not make it any easier to bear. While you wait for things to improve, be sure to take care of yourself. Do not be afraid to rely on friends and family for support, and do not forget to eat well and exercise.

When Grief Will Not Lift

It is important to note that grief can cross a line into clinical depression, at which point professional care may be needed. Anyone who is experience intense feelings of hopelessness, an inability to face daily tasks, or thoughts of suicide needs to contact a doctor right away.

By: Joseph Devine

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Grief can be compounded when surviving loved ones know their loss could have been avoided if a third party had been more attentive or careful. To learn about legal options for families seeking justice, contact Minnesota wrongful death attorneys Terry, Slane & Ruohonen, PLLC.